Episode 91
EP #91 A million moments that make your life.
Welcome back to Dont get this Twisted
The conversation explores the importance of making moments in life and cherishing memories. It emphasizes the value of community, relationships, and being present in our lives. The discussion highlights the significance of learning from mistakes and creating good, as well as finding joy in small moments. It encourages listeners to change their trajectory and find happiness. The conversation concludes with a call to action to inspire others and leave reviews to help the podcast reach more people.
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::[Robb]: It's not a bad thing. Not a bad thing
at all. We should all do our homework. You
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::[Robb]: know what I mean? Hey, and thanks for
call, no, not for calling. Ha ha. Thanks for
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::[Robb]: messing up the beginning of the
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hahaha!
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::[Robb]: show. Ha ha ha. Thanks for tuning into
another show of Don't Get This Twisted. I am
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::[Robb]: Rob, along with my co-host Tina. As
always, Tina, how you doing?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm good, Rob, but it sounds
like I'm more like you are right now.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, I'm all over the place this morning.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You
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::[Robb]: And
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::[Tina m Garcia]: just flubbed right through
that.
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::[Robb]: I know, and you know what? That's what
this show's all about, flubbing through things.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: laughs
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::[Robb]: You know, flubbing, we, we flub through
life. Why not? Flub through the show.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That was funny.
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::[Robb]: Yeah. It's been a morning. That's why.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You hit the right.
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::[Robb]: So wow. Uh, anyway, check out our social
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::[Robb]: tech talk, but we'll know when that's
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::[Robb]: the podcasting platforms, Apple, Google,
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::[Robb]: Make sure that you subscribe or follow
or do that thing and share. Share it with all
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::[Robb]: your pals and friends. This week we're
talking moments in time because again my work,
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::[Robb]: I work with some crazy people and we
somehow get on these bizarre topics and we
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::[Robb]: were talking about like moments in time
and like things that that you remember and
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::[Robb]: I was like oh that's that's kind of
I mean what we all do, we live a million little
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::[Robb]: moments in time. So I was like, hey,
I'll throw that at Tina. And you said? Sure.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I always have stuff like that
to talk about.
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::[Robb]: Exactly. I'm trying to find, I found
this website, I'm going to try to find it right
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::[Robb]: now while we're chatting about if you
put in your birth date and what time you were
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::[Robb]: born, it tells you how many hours, minutes,
and seconds you were, have been on this planet.
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::[Robb]: So it's pretty interesting.
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::[Robb]: once you look at how many, like you
don't, we don't think about things because
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::[Robb]: we think in years and these, but when
you break it down to the simplest form, I mean
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::[Robb]: even minutes, but seconds, like you've
been here like a billion seconds or some crazy
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::[Robb]: shit like that. It's just interesting
to me that, because we live all these small
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::[Robb]: moments that sometimes, we think are
just irrelevant. But in the grand scheme of
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::[Robb]: things, these moments probably mean
way more than we think.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It's what makes you you.
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::[Robb]: Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It's what sticks.
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::[Robb]: Yes, that's very true. How long have
I been alive in days? Let's see if this is
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::[Robb]: the website. But yeah, like, so you
start thinking of like the small things, and
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::[Robb]: there could be anything. First kiss,
birth of your child. first days of school,
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::[Robb]: like these things that seem so minute,
I mean not the birth of your kid, but a first
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::[Robb]: day of school can change your life.
Mostly if you're like in a new town or going
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::[Robb]: from grade to grade, it's these tiny
moments that you just gotta go, oh yeah, I'm
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::[Robb]: starting school. And next thing you
know, you're knee deep in, you know, whatever
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::[Robb]: it is you're. your life has changed,
mostly like high school. I think high school
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::[Robb]: was a big jump between junior high and
high school. I remember telling my kid,
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::[Robb]: when he went into ninth grade, because
his high school was ninth, tenth, eleventh,
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::[Robb]: and twelfth, and I remember going to
the thing beforehand. Like you go and you walk
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::[Robb]: the school and all the orientation,
the kids were around. And I kind of warned
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::[Robb]: him, I was like, look, there's gonna
be like real women that go to this school.
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::[Robb]: Like you're not, like, it's gonna be
a jump. Like, be ready for this. And he was
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::[Robb]: like, kind of played it off. He's like,
yeah, whatever. Okay, well, we'll let that
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::[Robb]: go. And then I remember him, him coming
back like day two. And he was just like, oh
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::[Robb]: yeah, you're right. He's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hahaha
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::[Robb]: like, senior girls are like girls. Like.
they got boobies. And I was like, yeah. And
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::[Robb]: I kind of remember that myself. When
you just kind of go, oh, shit. Yeah, you're
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::[Robb]: right. Life has just changed. And I
think as an adult, it's still very similar
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::[Robb]: where you're like,
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::[Robb]: if you go to a party or you go to an
event, It's that same similar thing where you
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::[Robb]: kind of walk in and kind of go, oh shit,
like it's new people or this or that. So I
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::[Robb]: find it kind of interesting that no
matter if you're young or old, you're taking
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::[Robb]: in these moments that can totally change
your life whether you know it or not.
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::[Robb]: So, to me, I was like, yeah, let's take
a gander. I'm gonna calculate, let's see. What
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::[Robb]: do you mean add birth time? So what
do you think? Do you think...
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::[Tina m Garcia]: There for me, that's always
been what. What's it's what sticks in my head,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the memories. And it's always
like little blips of time. It's not the whole
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::[Tina m Garcia]: timeframe. Like I remember
the day I got married. I stopped three times
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and took a deep breath and
just looked around. And those are really the
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::[Tina m Garcia]: memories that I have of my
wedding day. Cause it was just. so much so
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::[Tina m Garcia]: fast and so much emotion like
it was it was too much for my brain to take
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::[Tina m Garcia]: in but I remember specifically
in detail those three moments and where everybody
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::[Tina m Garcia]: was in the room and
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: what they were doing like I
remember those or um another one when you the
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::[Tina m Garcia]: when you said something about
seeing your child be born well I've never done
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: But I thought for a second
and that was, I remember the day that my daughter
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::[Tina m Garcia]: fell in love with me and we
were at a park and I got goose by a goose and
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I said something and I guess
she thought, I don't know, she just thought
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that was the funniest thing
and just laughed hysterically and from that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: day on she was my kid. And
the funny thing is she told me more than once
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::[Tina m Garcia]: about She knew that day that
she wanted me to be her mother.
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::[Robb]: Hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So it was like a moment that
affected both of us. And that was kind of a.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, it is those things. And look,
I think the birth of your child is a whole,
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::[Robb]: it's chaotic.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It's a huge moment.
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::[Robb]: It is, I'll tell you, for me it was
a monstrous moment. But it is chaotic. I think
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::[Robb]: that there's something chaotic about
that.
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::[Robb]: You look at everything leading up to
it as well. Like, to me, you look at like morning
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::[Robb]: sickness in the beginning and going
through this and your, your wife complaining
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::[Robb]: that she's just massive and her ankles
hurt and this hurt. And then it culminates
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::[Robb]: in this, you know, amazing thing that
happens. And then there's the flip side of
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::[Robb]: that is the, the aftermath of that,
the, the beginning days and then sleepless
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::[Robb]: nights and getting up and doing this.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: So I think it's It's children, but yes,
the birth of your child is very bizarre and
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::[Robb]: very... uh, enriching and, and changes
you as a person. But I also think that like
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::[Robb]: you, you get to a point where you realize
that the child that you have falls in love
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::[Robb]: with you. Cause there is that like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,
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::[Robb]: little.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I didn't ever know that that
even existed.
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::[Robb]: I didn't, well, I didn't either.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, it was something that
stuck.
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::[Robb]: It's those, that first time you see
like that glimmer where they're just like enthralled
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::[Robb]: with you. So I don't know, those are
special things.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: So just so you know, I kind of wrote,
threw this in this little app or website I
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::[Robb]: found. It says in months, I'm 620 months
old.
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::[Robb]: I'm gonna start telling people that
from now on. I'm gonna be like a small child
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::[Robb]: where you start saying, oh, they're
24 months old. No, they're two years old, shut
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::[Robb]: up.
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::[Robb]: Let's see, hours. I'm 454,000 hours
old. But seconds is like just crazy. It's like
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::[Robb]: 16 billion, 352 million. So let's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That
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::[Robb]: say,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: is crazy.
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::[Robb]: So let's say you knock that in half
for sleep, right? Cause you're going, those
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::[Robb]: are things that you aren't socially
doing things. So even that eight, you know,
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::[Robb]: 18 or, um, 8 billion seconds. So those
are theoretical moments, right? Um, breaths
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::[Robb]: of air. Let's see, I got to do the math
here. 400, a million. So 20, billion breaths
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::[Robb]: of air I've taken. Just crazy.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That does kind of make you
think. I don't know, I wasn't impressed with
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the seconds, but the breaths
was kind of cool.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, I've spent 25.4 months eating
and drinking. My heart has beaten. Well, let's
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::[Robb]: see, I gotta do the math. There's no
commas for the wha, for the numbers. Do thousand.
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::[Robb]: 19 billion times my heart has beaten.
So, I'm gonna do the math. I'm gonna do the
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::[Robb]: math.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's crazy.
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::[Robb]: I've eaten about 37 tons of food.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that you can't even
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: imagine.
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::[Robb]: I have spent 17 years sleeping.
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::[Robb]: And
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's
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::[Robb]: I've
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::[Tina m Garcia]: crazy,
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::[Robb]: laughed. Uh huh.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: 17 years of it?
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::[Robb]: Uh
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Of your life?
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::[Robb]: huh. And
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm.
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::[Robb]: I've laughed a hundred and eighty nine
thousand times.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's not enough.
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::[Robb]: No, it's never enough. It's never enough.
But, but that just goes to show you that like
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::[Robb]: we, we have these moments in time that
will be with this forever. Like I can, I remember
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::[Robb]: my first kiss and I want to say I was
in like fifth grade walking a girl home. Um,
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::[Robb]: and I got a little peck, but I remember,
I can tell you exactly where it adds in the
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::[Robb]: San Fernando Valley, actually. Yeah.
And I lived down the street from it from like
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::[Robb]: 15 years, like, cause I went to school
over there. So it is kind of this bizarre thing
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::[Robb]: that we, I think we take for granted.
We take these moments for granted. And, and
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::[Robb]: again, I think maybe a lot of it has
to do with we are hustling and bustling and
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::[Robb]: you're always doing something. But I
think, we as people need to step back and try
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::[Robb]: our best to remember these moments.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm, absolutely, that's
for sure.
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::[Robb]: Because I think we don't. We continue
to just move forward. And look, I'm all up
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::[Robb]: for making moments. I think those are
also important things. Like, don't be stagnant,
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::[Robb]: make moments. Moments are important.
probably more than we think because we think
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::[Robb]: we're always gonna have more, mostly
with somebody and that ends. So, I think maybe
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::[Robb]: a lot of this too came from, obviously
my mom died, so I started to kind of think
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::[Robb]: back like what were my moments with
my mom? Like some of these small things that,
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::[Robb]: because when my parents got divorced,
I lived with her for a little while and then.
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::[Robb]: I ended up moving in with my dad, so
my moments in time for a long time were just
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::[Robb]: every other weekend with my mom. But
she always tried to make these cool things.
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::[Robb]: I remember always going to the video
store and renting movies and getting a pizza.
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::[Robb]: Like it was just the thing we did on
the Friday night that she picked me up.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm
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::[Robb]: And then Saturday was always breakfast.
My mom would make sure that. she made a breakfast
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::[Robb]: for me at least one of the days, because
generally Sunday was the ride home. So it was
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::[Robb]: always like something quick.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: But I remember like going there with
my best friend, like he would go up there with
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::[Robb]: me and we'd hang out for the weekend.
At one point, like in 11th, 11th grade? 11th
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::[Robb]: or 10th grade, I was dating a girl at
the time and she got to go up to my mom's house
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::[Robb]: with me. Like it was like, and I remember
that we, that we slept out in the living room
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::[Robb]: because my mom wanted to make sure that
like, she could have an eye on me. So. Those
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::[Robb]: are like these tiny moments that I kind
of forgot about
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. That's it's funny because
you they don't They may not stick in in what
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you think about on a daily
But if
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: somebody says something that
triggers it then it comes to you because once
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you you said that to me I thought
about a lot of things You know growing up on
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::[Tina m Garcia]: San Fernando Mission Boulevard
When I got my license I drove, I got to drive
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::[Tina m Garcia]: home by myself. And then when
I did, there was no place to park, but this
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::[Tina m Garcia]: one like tiny parking spot
that I had to like
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::[Robb]: Mm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: squeak it in on a parallel
park. And my mom talked me through it. She
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::[Tina m Garcia]: told me what to do. And I,
and so I just listened to what she did. And
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I did exactly what she said
to do. And I got into this tiny parking space
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and I never had a problem with
parking after that. It was like the gods have
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::[Tina m Garcia]: blessed me since. And it's
now a superpower, I could find parking anywhere
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::[Tina m Garcia]: close to anywhere I need to
be in any type of weather and I don't know,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I think that moment kind of
changed my opinion on driving even because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I do have luck like that.
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::[Robb]: You know what?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: When you did that it triggered
a lot of stupid memories, like blips of time.
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::[Robb]: Because those are the things that hold
us together as people, I think. We are these
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::[Robb]: moments in time, and whether how silly
they are or not. Like, I remember my best friend
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::[Robb]: lived next door to me in a house, I
lived in an apartment, and there was an alley
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::[Robb]: that was in between us. And this alley
was the... the play yard for the neighborhood,
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::[Robb]: right? All the boys would get together
in this alleyway and we'd try to play baseball,
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::[Robb]: even though it was a small alley. I
mean, we broke windows.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehe
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::[Robb]: We did all kinds of dumb shit. But these
are those things, and then I remember me and
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::[Robb]: him would just sit on his front porch
for hours and just bullshit with each other
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::[Robb]: about. whatever nonsense that was going
through our mind at the time. And, and again,
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::[Robb]: I think we take those things for granted.
And he's my best friend to this day. And I
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::[Robb]: mean, I was the best man at his wedding.
Like these are things that you would have never
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::[Robb]: thought like when I was that young,
I never thought I would be the best man at
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::[Robb]: his wedding. We were just living. So
I, I find that these things are, are locked
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::[Robb]: away in a vault. Like we all have these
things. And whether what they are, like you
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::[Robb]: talked about like getting married. And
I have a friend down the street from here that,
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::[Robb]: that told me about, she remembers to
this day about to be taken down the aisle and
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::[Robb]: her dad going, are you sure you want
to do this?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehehehe
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::[Robb]: Because I think dad had the third eye
and knew. from
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::[Tina m Garcia]: My
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::[Robb]: the beginning.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: dad said, it's too late now,
he should have got out before.
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And I was like, really, dad?
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::[Robb]: from what I, the story that I heard,
this one was like, you can leave right now.
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::[Robb]: I don't care. Even if I paid for it.
Like don't make the mistake if you really don't
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::[Robb]: want to do it. And it didn't last, but
I do believe that like dad had that, that sixth
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::[Robb]: sense, that third eye, he, he knew that
she was doing it for whatever reason, and it
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::[Robb]: probably wasn't the best idea. So, And
that's a moment in her time. Like, and that
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::[Robb]: was one of the things that she kind
of told me about. And I was like, yeah. And
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::[Robb]: now when we were talking about moments
in time, it kind of clicked in my head that
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::[Robb]: she said that after you talked about
getting married. It's like these things where
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::[Robb]: it is a big deal. These moments that
we think at the time are like, Oh, we're just
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::[Robb]: going to do it. I know what I'm doing
is right. And then of course hindsight is always
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::[Robb]: 2020. And then you think back like,
man, my dad saw this shit from the beginning.
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::[Robb]: It's kind of cool. And obviously things
that we do that aren't good,
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::[Robb]: we got off early from junior high school
in my seventh grade year. Like we got off early,
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::[Robb]: it was like a half day. My dad told
me, do not go back to your old school,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
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::[Robb]: which was right down the street from
me. Tulsa Street School down the street from
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::[Robb]: the apartment. Don't go back there,
do not. Well, I did. Fell backwards and broke
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::[Robb]: my wrist.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh no!
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::[Robb]: Yeah, so, but that was like this moment
in time. I remember riding my bike back with
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::[Robb]: a broken wrist going to my friend's
house. His mom got home earlier that day and
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::[Robb]: I don't know if you remember it, but
there were these like big black roast pans
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::[Robb]: that had, they were black with like
little white dots all over them. And I remember
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::[Robb]: it like, you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: could always buy them. The first thing
she did is they had an automatic ice maker
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::[Robb]: and she put my arm in this roast fucking
pan and filled it with ice.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Right?
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::[Robb]: So my arm wouldn't blow up to be, you
know, five times bigger than it was. And then
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::[Robb]: at the time my older brother got home
and of course had to call my dad and tell him
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::[Robb]: that I broke my wrist. Or that we think
I broke my wrist. It was broken, you could
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::[Robb]: tell, it was sideways. And then I remember
the drive over to this day. It's like, it's
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::[Robb]: so embedded in my head. And then I remember
they asked my dad, well, first they asked me
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::[Robb]: what happened. And I was like, well,
I was stupid and I tripped over my own feet
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::[Robb]: and I broke my wrist. And then they
took
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::[Tina m Garcia]: No,
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::[Robb]: him aside,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you got a bit of
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::[Robb]: asked
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::[Tina m Garcia]: trouble.
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::[Robb]: him what happened.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, and then they came back to me
and they were like, well really, what happened?
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::[Robb]: And I was like, no really, I'm
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
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::[Robb]: stupid. And I tripped over my own feet
and broke my wrist because I, so because they
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::[Robb]: thought he maybe like beat me and I
was like, my dad was at work. Are you kidding?
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::[Robb]: He may break my face when I get home,
but he didn't break my wrist. So, you know,
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::[Robb]: these moments in time that are so embedded
in us. And I think that it's interesting because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: like I said, I asked my friends at work
they had so many of these things that they
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Like this guy I work with, he's from Pittsburgh
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me stories about, it was a rough neighborhood
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::[Robb]: and him getting jumped all the time
and
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::[Robb]: looking at his hands, his hands are
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: horrible. They're like, his knuckles
are all fucked
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's crazy.
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::[Robb]: up and big and huge and they swell up.
To this day,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I was talking
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::[Tina m Garcia]: to
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the girls
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::[Tina m Garcia]: yesterday about, you know,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: things
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::[Robb]: it's kind
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::[Tina m Garcia]: they
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::[Tina m Garcia]: were telling their
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::[Robb]: that...
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::[Tina m Garcia]: first time stories. And I told
the I told
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the story of the first time
that I had ever had. I had everybody laughing,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: but it's it's funny because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I remember that because I was
afraid of it being a big girl. I thought like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: don't do that. Let's not go
there. And and he And when he finally did it,
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::[Robb]: Oh.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I was like, what the hell was
I thinking? Don't ever say no to this again.
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::[Robb]: Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
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::[Robb]: Right.
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::[Robb]: Heh heh. Yeah, I don't think, this is,
you know, the funny thing is is like first
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::[Robb]: time that, look, it's either a bad experience
or a good experience. Right? And I think that's
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::[Robb]: common that, so I had a great experience.
My girl I was with was way older than me, was
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::[Robb]: like a roadmap, step me through everything,
do this, do this, I'm gonna do this, do this.
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times after that that were not
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::[Robb]: as enjoyable because it was like flubbing
around and not being able to do it right. But
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And then I think, so let's say you're younger
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with people after that, even as we get older,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Ha ha ha ha ha. You're.
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::[Robb]: Like the first time you kiss somebody,
even new, or the first time you're alone with
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::[Robb]: this person, or the first time you go
out with them, that you're in public with them,
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::[Robb]: and you go on a real date. Like those
are things that stick because they may turn
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::[Robb]: into something a lot bigger. So it's,
you know, or not, or not. Correct. No, I think
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::[Robb]: that that's part of it. Look, I've been
on a lot of dates in the last couple of years,
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::[Robb]: I mean not a lot, but I've been on several
dates that were good. I think that were, but
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::[Robb]: just not right. You know, I think that's
what a lot of people ask me. They're like,
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::[Robb]: what do you, like how was your dating
thing? I was like, not bad, just a lot of one
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::[Robb]: and done's. Like, I went on a date,
they were
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::[Tina m Garcia]: right?
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::[Robb]: good people, I
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's
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::[Robb]: had
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::[Robb]: good food,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Some
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::[Tina m Garcia]: of my
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::[Robb]: Gone
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::[Tina m Garcia]: with
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::[Tina m Garcia]: my friends are sitting
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::[Robb]: I went
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::[Tina m Garcia]: around
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::[Robb]: out with
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a
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::[Robb]: people
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::[Tina m Garcia]: kitchen
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::[Robb]: that weren't
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::[Tina m Garcia]: table
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::[Robb]: dates,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: playing cards.
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::[Robb]: just going
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Like just
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::[Robb]: to have food
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::[Tina m Garcia]: little
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::[Tina m Garcia]: blips
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::[Robb]: a great
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::[Tina m Garcia]: of time
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::[Robb]: time
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::[Tina m Garcia]: when
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::[Robb]: and
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::[Tina m Garcia]: they've said something
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::[Robb]: great conversations.
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::[Robb]: And sometimes
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::[Tina m Garcia]: just like
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::[Robb]: that's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: my mom's,
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::[Robb]: what you need,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: like anything
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::[Robb]: just
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you wanted
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::[Robb]: to get
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::[Tina m Garcia]: to
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::[Robb]: through
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::[Tina m Garcia]: say could
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::[Robb]: because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: be said
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::[Robb]: of,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: there
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::[Robb]: you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and
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::[Robb]: know, wherever you're
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you
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::[Robb]: at in life or
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::[Tina m Garcia]: may
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::[Robb]: whatever's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: or may
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::[Robb]: going
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::[Tina m Garcia]: be judged and
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::[Robb]: So.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you may or may not be laughed
at, but it's like a free form. And so when
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::[Tina m Garcia]: they say things, I'm like,
wait, what did you just say? And that will
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::[Tina m Garcia]: instantly make something stick
in my head. Like it will never leave. But I,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I, then we talked about like
the first crush we had or the first, have you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: ever felt a love at first sight?
And, um, I've experienced that.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And, and I would definitely
say it was a moment that changed. who I was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, like that. But I remember
it specifically in a classroom and being like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: wow, I want that. You know,
it was it was instant. I also remember. I also
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::[Tina m Garcia]: remember him getting really
pissed off at me trying to learn how to drive
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::[Tina m Garcia]: in the front of our high school
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: with a stick.
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::[Robb]: I'll go along with that.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You know, he had to shift.
And yes, and the car was like jerking back
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and forth and summer school
had just gotten out and everybody was in front
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::[Robb]: I think, uh,
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::[Robb]: I'll keep going.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the car that I'm driving as
I'm historically laughing is jerking past the
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::[Tina m Garcia]: school.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So when I stalled it he my
brother got out of
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::[Robb]: Yes,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the car all
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::[Robb]: a stick.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: pissed off and walked
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::[Robb]: Correct,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: home
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::[Robb]: a manual.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and that moment because every
time I I'm in a manual a car where I have to
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::[Tina m Garcia]: shift.
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::[Robb]: Hehehe
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Why am I having problems saying
that? I don't know. But um, when I get in a
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::[Tina m Garcia]: car and I for the first time
may or may not get it right into gear, it triggers
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that laughter. Like I'm
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::[Robb]: Hahaha
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::[Tina m Garcia]: like, oh here it goes again.
Because how often do you drive a car like that?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: For me, I mean, anymore does
anybody drive manual cars? Is that a thing
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::[Tina m Garcia]: still?
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::[Robb]: It's okay.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm. I did in front of the
high school.
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::[Robb]: That's funny.
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::[Robb]: Um, yeah, probably. Um, I think probably
less in California because we have so much
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::[Robb]: shitty traffic here. I wouldn't own
a manual, but I can't drive one, so it doesn't
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::[Robb]: matter. I never learned. Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You're welcome.
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::[Robb]: Yeah. I think going forward probably
gonna be even
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Ha
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::[Robb]: harder
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::[Tina m Garcia]: ha!
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::[Robb]: because of like electric cars. Like
no one's gonna have. But yeah, I think that
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::[Robb]: like you said, like love at first sight
or
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You were...
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::[Robb]: just like wow factors,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You were giddy.
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::[Robb]: like I've had a couple of those in life.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: When I was 18 and you know her, that
was a wow moment for sure. Yeah, I mean
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::[Tina m Garcia]: She was so your speed.
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::[Robb]: that she was just, you know, out of
control for that time. Like I was like super
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::[Robb]: goo goo, like.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: like a small like like a like I was
giddy it was like a crush I was like oh my
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::[Robb]: goodness and and she was so um
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehe
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::[Robb]: hate to say my speed, but she was. She
was so my speed
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, so all those
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::[Robb]: and she
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::[Tina m Garcia]: moments
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::[Robb]: was bubbly
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::[Tina m Garcia]: are what you're talking
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::[Robb]: and like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: about right now?
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::[Robb]: ha ha, but she was super duper smart.
Like way smarter than me. And she went to a
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::[Robb]: private school and she was just
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehe
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::[Robb]: super not what I thought she was going
to be, but she was just a handful. Like oh
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::[Robb]: my goodness, the story is about her.
the how many times.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, I mean the first one was seen
her for the first time though. I just remember,
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::[Robb]: you know, the curly blonde hair and
just wow, I was like BAM And and and it's happened
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::[Robb]: again in my life. I walked into a restaurant
to meet somebody That I hadn't seen in many
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::[Robb]: years and Was again kind of I Was taken
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Or,
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::[Robb]: back.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you know, there's
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::[Robb]: Let's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: also,
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::[Robb]: just say that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: there's also moments
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::[Robb]: Like I
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that
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::[Robb]: had
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::[Tina m Garcia]: kind
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::[Robb]: to,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: of,
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::[Robb]: I kind of stepped backwards
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that,
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::[Robb]: and
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that
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::[Robb]: was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: change
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::[Robb]: like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: your life, but
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::[Robb]: holy
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::[Tina m Garcia]: they're not good ones
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::[Robb]: shit,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: too. Like
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::[Robb]: like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I remember
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::[Robb]: it's,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: like walking into my parents'
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::[Robb]: yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: house
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::[Robb]: just,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the day my mom
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::[Robb]: I was at a loss
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::[Tina m Garcia]: was
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::[Robb]: for
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::[Tina m Garcia]: dead,
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::[Robb]: words
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you know,
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::[Robb]: for
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and I
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::[Robb]: a
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::[Tina m Garcia]: walked
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::[Robb]: second or
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::[Tina m Garcia]: in
541
::[Robb]: two.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: on her and found her. It's
like that.
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::[Robb]: But those are like those
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Okay.
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::[Robb]: moments
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So this is,
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::[Robb]: in time
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::[Tina m Garcia]: this is what
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::[Robb]: where
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I remember. I remember
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::[Robb]: you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: all of
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::[Robb]: become
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that very vividly,
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::[Robb]: that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: but this
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::[Robb]: adolescent
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::[Tina m Garcia]: is the part
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::[Robb]: again.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I want to talk about.
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::[Robb]: You become
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I remember
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::[Robb]: that.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: looking into her eyes because
her eyes were still open and she had really
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::[Tina m Garcia]: strikingly pretty green eyes.
But when
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::[Robb]: Oh, for sure.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I looked at her face with her
eyes open, you could see that there was no
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::[Tina m Garcia]: life behind them. Like that,
like her soul. high tailed it out of her body
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and just left it. And that
was the shell. But I remember distinctly thinking,
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: wow, where'd that, where'd
that go? Like I didn't realize that wasn't
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::[Tina m Garcia]: part of the body. That was
more like a person's spirit, you know, seeing
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the life in them, I guess.
But that really did, that one particular moment
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::[Tina m Garcia]: kind of burnt a little bit
stronger.
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::[Robb]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: I haven't seen many, as a matter of
fact, I've only seen one dead person that had
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::[Robb]: just passed away, my ex-mother-in-law.
And I remember dropping my kid off because
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::[Robb]: my ex-wife was like, look, she's not,
she had a day to live. So she was like, I want
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::[Robb]: to make sure that at least he gets to
see her one last time. I'm like, all right.
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::[Robb]: So I... drove all the way out to Lancaster
from Camarillo, dropped him off, drove all
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::[Robb]: the way home. Then I get a phone call
from my son going, I don't want to be here
583
::[Robb]: anymore. Like, all right, he goes, come
get me. Cause he didn't want to see her die,
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::[Robb]: which makes sense. So I drive all the
way out there, turn right back around, drive
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::[Robb]: like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Quite
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::[Robb]: hour
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a bit.
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::[Robb]: and 30 minutes or whatever out there,
driving out there. I park and my son runs out
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::[Robb]: and he's like, it's too late. I'm like,
all right. So I remember walking in and she
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::[Robb]: was in the hospital bed and you're right,
it was a husk. That's all it was to me. And
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::[Robb]: I'm not a very religious person at all.
Although I've changed, I shouldn't say at all.
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::[Robb]: I've changed my thought processes for
sure. But it was the first time, yeah, quite
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::[Robb]: a bit. But it was the first time that
I really saw that, like you're right, like
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::[Robb]: there is a spark. that soul, whatever
you want to call it, that just leaves people.
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::[Robb]: And then a friend of mine, Scott, passed
away a couple years ago. He was my boss, really
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::[Robb]: good, great guy. And I saw him dying
in his house. He was a big dude, and I remember
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::[Robb]: going to his house to visit him, and
he was just wasting away. He looked like a
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::[Robb]: skeleton. And...
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Here's
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::[Robb]: He
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a
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::[Robb]: was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: flip
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::[Robb]: a proud,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: side of that,
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::[Robb]: proud
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::[Tina m Garcia]: which
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::[Robb]: man,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: is
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::[Robb]: proud man.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: kind of cool. I had
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::[Robb]: And
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a client for many
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::[Robb]: he
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::[Tina m Garcia]: years,
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::[Robb]: recognized who me
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::[Tina m Garcia]: beautiful
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::[Robb]: and a friend were.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: woman. She was Greek,
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::[Robb]: But I
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::[Tina m Garcia]: had
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::[Robb]: could
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::[Tina m Garcia]: this
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::[Robb]: see
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::[Tina m Garcia]: great
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::[Robb]: it in him that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: hair
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::[Robb]: he would
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and I used
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::[Robb]: wish
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::[Tina m Garcia]: to
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::[Robb]: to be
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::[Tina m Garcia]: just
635
::[Robb]: like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: put
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::[Robb]: he was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: it in
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::[Robb]: happy
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::[Tina m Garcia]: these cool
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::[Robb]: we were there,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: styles. She was
643
::[Robb]: but
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::[Tina m Garcia]: beautiful,
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::[Robb]: he wasn't.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: very
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::[Robb]: Cause
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::[Tina m Garcia]: sweet woman,
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::[Robb]: you can
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::[Tina m Garcia]: religious,
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::[Robb]: see that it ate him
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::[Tina m Garcia]: but she didn't
653
::[Robb]: up,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: push
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::[Robb]: that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: it. She
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::[Robb]: we had
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::[Tina m Garcia]: never
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::[Robb]: to see
660
::[Tina m Garcia]: pushed
661
::[Robb]: him
662
::[Tina m Garcia]: it on
663
::[Robb]: in
664
::[Tina m Garcia]: me.
665
::[Robb]: this state.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And
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::[Robb]: And those
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I did
669
::[Robb]: are
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::[Tina m Garcia]: her
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::[Robb]: moments
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::[Tina m Garcia]: hair for
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::[Robb]: that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: years
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::[Robb]: like that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and then her
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::[Robb]: really,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: hair had to come out
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::[Robb]: really
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::[Tina m Garcia]: because, you know, chemotherapy
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::[Robb]: kind
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and everything.
683
::[Robb]: of
684
::[Tina m Garcia]: It came
685
::[Robb]: got
686
::[Tina m Garcia]: back
687
::[Robb]: me.
688
::[Tina m Garcia]: in and then I was able to cut
it a few times and then she had a relapse.
689
::[Tina m Garcia]: And then, um, she promised
me that she would like get to me before she
690
::[Tina m Garcia]: passed away. Like, cause I
couldn't do her hair. She, her hair was, you
691
::[Tina m Garcia]: know, just about gone. So two
days before she passed, she called me on the
692
::[Tina m Garcia]: phone and she said to me, Tina,
it's time. So I went up there that afternoon
693
::[Tina m Garcia]: and I trimmed up the hair that
she had left and, and, and got her ready for
694
::[Tina m Garcia]: her passing. And she told me
that that's what I was doing. And we had the
695
::[Tina m Garcia]: most beautiful talk and she
was in a diaper and a, in a, uh, pajama top.
696
::[Tina m Garcia]: And the one thing that she
said to me that still holds true today is she
697
::[Tina m Garcia]: said, you know, Remember how
we had that talk about you liking to do things
698
::[Tina m Garcia]: and me telling you don't ever
stop and I said, yeah She goes it's it's more
699
::[Tina m Garcia]: important than you know Don't
be sitting in my spot not having done everything
700
::[Tina m Garcia]: that meant something to you
and She died two days later I was the last
701
::[Tina m Garcia]: person that got to come over
and see her and that moment when she told me
702
::[Tina m Garcia]: that like it made it even it
was always important to me, but it was even
703
::[Tina m Garcia]: more important at that moment
when she said it and it and it every time I
704
::[Tina m Garcia]: want to say no, I will think
of her. I do. It's insane.
705
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yes. And don't think you need
to be perfect. And don't think you can't make
706
::[Tina m Garcia]: mistakes. Just don't get arrested.
I mean, you can fix anything as long as you
707
::[Tina m Garcia]: don't get
708
::[Robb]: Sure.
709
::[Tina m Garcia]: arrested. That kind of stains.
But man, make some freaking memories.
710
::[Robb]: Right.
711
::[Tina m Garcia]: No. And they
712
::[Robb]: I
713
::[Tina m Garcia]: shouldn't
714
::[Robb]: mean,
715
::[Tina m Garcia]: be.
716
::[Robb]: and I think that that should
717
::[Tina m Garcia]: We don't
718
::[Robb]: drive
719
::[Tina m Garcia]: learn from
720
::[Robb]: everyone.
721
::[Tina m Garcia]: doing things right. I'm sorry.
722
::[Robb]: The people
723
::[Tina m Garcia]: I
724
::[Robb]: who are
725
::[Tina m Garcia]: keep
726
::[Robb]: listening
727
::[Tina m Garcia]: interrupting
728
::[Robb]: to this, you should
729
::[Tina m Garcia]: you.
730
::[Robb]: live. Don't stay stagnant because you
think you have to.
731
::[Robb]: Yeah, look, no one, you're right, no
one's perfect. And no one should,
732
::[Tina m Garcia]: Make yourself happy.
733
::[Robb]: no, no, you're right though. No, I'll
agree with that. I just think that the thing
734
::[Robb]: about being perfect is, for one, it's
never gonna happen. But second, don't let the
735
::[Robb]: people around you make you think you
have to be perfect. Because that's not true
736
::[Robb]: either. Hold yourself to a benchmark,
you know? But yeah, live, because one day you
737
::[Robb]: won't. And I hate to harp back on that,
but it's true. And go live, go make more moments.
738
::[Robb]: Because that's what I want to do. I,
with whatever years I have left, because you
739
::[Robb]: know, none of us know, I want to make
some moments. and whatever that is, whether
740
::[Robb]: it's holding hands in a park or on an
airplane to Hawaii, they all mean the same
741
::[Robb]: thing at the end. Each one of these
moments means something.
742
::[Tina m Garcia]: As long as you're alive, you
have
743
::[Robb]: And
744
::[Tina m Garcia]: opportunity.
745
::[Robb]: I hope that the people out there listening
746
::[Tina m Garcia]: Did
747
::[Robb]: think,
748
::[Tina m Garcia]: you?
749
::[Robb]: what are my moments?
750
::[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm.
751
::[Robb]: What are these things that I've already
created and- you are going to create tons and
752
::[Robb]: tons more. And that's what kind of excites
me, that I still can make these moments, whatever
753
::[Robb]: they are. Yeah, to make moments. I had
a moment last night actually, sitting with
754
::[Robb]: my kid. He decided to come out and kind
of just like sit on the couch and we had a
755
::[Robb]: long conversation that I haven't
756
::[Tina m Garcia]: That was
757
::[Robb]: had
758
::[Tina m Garcia]: literally
759
::[Robb]: with him in a while,
760
::[Tina m Garcia]: how
761
::[Robb]: but it was, I
762
::[Tina m Garcia]: last month, my birthday month
763
::[Robb]: hate
764
::[Tina m Garcia]: started,
765
::[Robb]: to say that it was like
766
::[Tina m Garcia]: was
767
::[Robb]: serious, and
768
::[Tina m Garcia]: there
769
::[Robb]: it had
770
::[Tina m Garcia]: were so
771
::[Robb]: serious
772
::[Tina m Garcia]: many people
773
::[Robb]: parts
774
::[Tina m Garcia]: I hadn't
775
::[Robb]: to it,
776
::[Tina m Garcia]: been able to
777
::[Robb]: but
778
::[Tina m Garcia]: see,
779
::[Robb]: we giggled a lot
780
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
781
::[Robb]: as
782
::[Tina m Garcia]: everybody
783
::[Robb]: well.
784
::[Tina m Garcia]: was like, hey, teen,
785
::[Robb]: But
786
::[Tina m Garcia]: do
787
::[Robb]: those
788
::[Tina m Garcia]: you wanna
789
::[Robb]: are
790
::[Tina m Garcia]: do
791
::[Robb]: the
792
::[Tina m Garcia]: this?
793
::[Robb]: things
794
::[Tina m Garcia]: Do you wanna
795
::[Robb]: that
796
::[Tina m Garcia]: do that? And I just said
797
::[Robb]: I
798
::[Tina m Garcia]: yes
799
::[Robb]: need to
800
::[Tina m Garcia]: to
801
::[Robb]: do
802
::[Tina m Garcia]: everything.
803
::[Robb]: more of. I need to make
804
::[Tina m Garcia]: And it
805
::[Robb]: these
806
::[Tina m Garcia]: ended
807
::[Robb]: moments
808
::[Tina m Garcia]: up
809
::[Robb]: with
810
::[Tina m Garcia]: a ridiculous
811
::[Robb]: people.
812
::[Tina m Garcia]: amount of traveling
813
::[Robb]: Whoever they
814
::[Tina m Garcia]: was
815
::[Robb]: are,
816
::[Tina m Garcia]: done last
817
::[Robb]: my
818
::[Tina m Garcia]: month,
819
::[Robb]: kid,
820
::[Tina m Garcia]: but I don't
821
::[Robb]: my
822
::[Tina m Garcia]: regret
823
::[Robb]: parents,
824
::[Tina m Garcia]: not one minute of it.
825
::[Robb]: my brother,
826
::[Tina m Garcia]: I really enjoyed
827
::[Robb]: you know, who, whoever,
828
::[Tina m Garcia]: the time.
829
::[Robb]: whoever these are, my friends.
830
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. I have.
831
::[Tina m Garcia]: second I couldn't.
832
::[Robb]: Right. Well, and again, I think you've
made a lot of moments in the last year.
833
::[Robb]: however you want to put that. You know,
and look.
834
::[Robb]: Can you not hear me?
835
::[Robb]: Oh, all right, that's good. Um, no,
I think, um,
836
::[Robb]: Over, look, you've gone through some
things. Obviously divorce changes things. And
837
::[Robb]: you're making moments, whatever that
would, however you wanna put that. These are
838
::[Robb]: moments that, these are the second half
of your life moments. And I think that we as
839
::[Robb]: people need to understand, you know,
time in, time out. That's what I said on the
840
::[Robb]: last podcast. Whatever it is that you're
in, that you've got out of, a relationship,
841
::[Robb]: being sick, whatever it is, for a long
period of time, whether it's 10 years, 20 years,
842
::[Robb]: two years, one, whatever that is, there's
a point where you jump into the next, amount
843
::[Robb]: of moments. And you need to make those
count. As you get older, like we are, I think
844
::[Robb]: these moments matter more than anything.
Because when we're laying on our deathbed,
845
::[Robb]: many, many, many moons from now,
846
::[Tina m Garcia]: Here's a,
847
::[Robb]: we're probably
848
::[Tina m Garcia]: I have
849
::[Robb]: going
850
::[Tina m Garcia]: one
851
::[Robb]: to
852
::[Tina m Garcia]: for you
853
::[Robb]: remember
854
::[Tina m Garcia]: that kind
855
::[Robb]: more
856
::[Tina m Garcia]: of
857
::[Robb]: of the back
858
::[Tina m Garcia]: was
859
::[Robb]: half
860
::[Tina m Garcia]: really,
861
::[Robb]: of those years than we are the front
862
::[Tina m Garcia]: I
863
::[Robb]: half
864
::[Tina m Garcia]: don't know,
865
::[Robb]: of
866
::[Tina m Garcia]: it
867
::[Robb]: those
868
::[Tina m Garcia]: kind
869
::[Robb]: years.
870
::[Tina m Garcia]: of stuck with me.
871
::[Robb]: Because
872
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was in El
873
::[Robb]: it's
874
::[Tina m Garcia]: Paso
875
::[Robb]: what the
876
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
877
::[Robb]: hard drive is storing
878
::[Tina m Garcia]: I have
879
::[Robb]: now,
880
::[Tina m Garcia]: this family that I
881
::[Robb]: we're
882
::[Tina m Garcia]: go
883
::[Robb]: gonna
884
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
885
::[Robb]: lose
886
::[Tina m Garcia]: see
887
::[Robb]: some of
888
::[Tina m Garcia]: and the
889
::[Robb]: our
890
::[Tina m Garcia]: family's
891
::[Robb]: youth.
892
::[Tina m Garcia]: gotten
893
::[Robb]: We're gonna...
894
::[Tina m Garcia]: bigger and
895
::[Robb]: forget
896
::[Tina m Garcia]: I know more
897
::[Robb]: things
898
::[Tina m Garcia]: and more
899
::[Robb]: that
900
::[Tina m Garcia]: generations
901
::[Robb]: happened
902
::[Tina m Garcia]: because
903
::[Robb]: for
904
::[Tina m Garcia]: I've
905
::[Robb]: whatever
906
::[Tina m Garcia]: been around
907
::[Robb]: reason.
908
::[Tina m Garcia]: for so long.
909
::[Robb]: Age just
910
::[Tina m Garcia]: And
911
::[Robb]: does that to you.
912
::[Tina m Garcia]: we're all at a party,
913
::[Robb]: So just remember
914
::[Tina m Garcia]: which
915
::[Robb]: that
916
::[Tina m Garcia]: is kind of
917
::[Robb]: the
918
::[Tina m Garcia]: ironic
919
::[Robb]: memories
920
::[Tina m Garcia]: because
921
::[Robb]: you're making
922
::[Tina m Garcia]: when I
923
::[Robb]: now
924
::[Tina m Garcia]: first met
925
::[Robb]: are
926
::[Tina m Garcia]: two
927
::[Robb]: probably
928
::[Tina m Garcia]: of the
929
::[Robb]: going to be
930
::[Tina m Garcia]: kids
931
::[Robb]: the memories
932
::[Tina m Garcia]: in this
933
::[Robb]: that you remember
934
::[Tina m Garcia]: clan,
935
::[Robb]: the most.
936
::[Tina m Garcia]: We we would party we went to
a party or actually they came over to my house
937
::[Tina m Garcia]: for a party and then We would
go dancing on the weekends and we were just
938
::[Tina m Garcia]: always together Having fun
didn't smoke didn't drink didn't do drugs,
939
::[Tina m Garcia]: but just a good time All these
years later. I just was there in um march and
940
::[Tina m Garcia]: Again, there was this huge
party live music then they had They DJ'd, they
941
::[Tina m Garcia]: had food, they had to have
it in a rec room. It was a big deal. And I
942
::[Tina m Garcia]: hadn't talked to one of my
friends in four years and he started talking
943
::[Tina m Garcia]: to me that night, like just
a little bit before this had happened. And
944
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was on the dance floor, having
a good time with everybody. And... I look around
945
::[Tina m Garcia]: and every person in the family
that I know was on the dance floor and they
946
::[Tina m Garcia]: were all having a good time
together and they were all doing a dance that
947
::[Tina m Garcia]: we did as teenagers. The different
song, but a dance. And I looked at everybody.
948
::[Tina m Garcia]: that i love that was out there
was on the dance floor and we were all having
949
::[Tina m Garcia]: fun and doing the same dance
the same way all these years later but now
950
::[Tina m Garcia]: there's two extra generations
coming through and we're all on the dance floor
951
::[Tina m Garcia]: and the tears just started
coming down because i was like oh my gosh like
952
::[Tina m Garcia]: it didn't you know the the
memories haven't stopped now they're just kind
953
::[Tina m Garcia]: of pushing together with the
new ones And I think that that's so important
954
::[Tina m Garcia]: that we need to have community
and family and friends and, and be accountable
955
::[Tina m Garcia]: to each other and, and love
each other and, and make time for one another.
956
::[Robb]: Alright.
957
::[Tina m Garcia]: You know, I have one of my
mom's best friends, like if I need a mom, she's
958
::[Tina m Garcia]: always right there. Like I
can't tell you the memories I have with her.
959
::[Tina m Garcia]: She's taken me to the doctor
and
960
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
961
::[Tina m Garcia]: she scolded me when I got caught
with cigarettes in my purse and she will do
962
::[Tina m Garcia]: art stuff with me until I don't
wanna look at it anymore. Like she's always
963
::[Tina m Garcia]: there. All the memories, all
the memories that you get when you have a mom
964
::[Tina m Garcia]: that wants to be there is really
freaking cool. You know, so I think the...
965
::[Tina m Garcia]: I think the important thing
is we just need to be present in our life and
966
::[Tina m Garcia]: we need to look for what we
are grateful for and learn from it. So that
967
::[Tina m Garcia]: we're not only just learning
from the bad, we're creating good. We need
968
::[Tina m Garcia]: to do more of that.
969
::[Robb]: Right? Excellent!
970
::[Tina m Garcia]: We learn from all of them,
actually. We either learn the hard way or the
971
::[Tina m Garcia]: easy way.
972
::[Robb]: For sure, I think that's one of the
most important things we need to do. Look,
973
::[Robb]: bad things happen. They do. And we learn
from some and we don't learn from some. But...
974
::[Robb]: I mean, yes, you're right. We do learn
from all of our mistakes. Actually, we learn
975
::[Robb]: from the good. We learn from everything.
976
::[Tina m Garcia]: Whatever
977
::[Robb]: And
978
::[Tina m Garcia]: you learn
979
::[Robb]: look,
980
::[Tina m Garcia]: on your journey,
981
::[Robb]: mistakes have always
982
::[Tina m Garcia]: however
983
::[Robb]: been made,
984
::[Tina m Garcia]: you learn
985
::[Robb]: and
986
::[Tina m Garcia]: it, it's your
987
::[Robb]: I've made
988
::[Tina m Garcia]: journey.
989
::[Robb]: quite a few,
990
::[Tina m Garcia]: You just
991
::[Robb]: but I don't
992
::[Tina m Garcia]: be
993
::[Robb]: let
994
::[Tina m Garcia]: grateful
995
::[Robb]: them anchor
996
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
997
::[Robb]: me down.
998
::[Tina m Garcia]: do more.
999
::[Robb]: They are part
1000
::[Tina m Garcia]: Enjoy
1001
::[Robb]: of
1002
::[Tina m Garcia]: it.
1003
::[Robb]: who I am, and I hope to make a million
more moments that... will stick in my head
1004
::[Robb]: and make me smile for no apparent reason.
Cause it's important.
1005
::[Robb]: Well, and I think that's the best part
too, is that it is our journey, and it's our
1006
::[Robb]: journey surrounded by a bunch of other
people's million second journeys. So, because
1007
::[Robb]: like I said, I mean, we've been friends
a long, long time, and me and my best friend,
1008
::[Robb]: same, long, long time. So these are
things that, there's so many little moments.
1009
::[Robb]: Like I said, being... his best man at
his wedding meant a lot to me because he got
1010
::[Robb]: married way later than we did. I think
he was, let's see, it was like four years ago.
1011
::[Robb]: So he was like 47 when he got married.
46 or 47. So he waited a long time and he found
1012
::[Robb]: a great girl and they're
1013
::[Robb]: give a speech at there. And thankfully
I had someone there who recorded it for me
1014
::[Robb]: so I have it. I barely made it through.
I was in tears. Because we spent so much time
1015
::[Robb]: together and to see him happy for the
first time, like really happy, was cool. So
1016
::[Robb]: that's a moment I'll never forget. And
it's important to me that I took a friend of
1017
::[Robb]: mine to the wedding and it was important.
for her to be there with me and it was important
1018
::[Robb]: for me to be there for him and these
small
1019
::[Tina m Garcia]: It totally is,
1020
::[Robb]: big
1021
::[Tina m Garcia]: even
1022
::[Robb]: moments
1023
::[Tina m Garcia]: at its worst, like
1024
::[Robb]: are
1025
::[Tina m Garcia]: we,
1026
::[Robb]: what
1027
::[Tina m Garcia]: we
1028
::[Robb]: makes
1029
::[Tina m Garcia]: learned
1030
::[Robb]: me.
1031
::[Tina m Garcia]: so
1032
::[Robb]: Those
1033
::[Tina m Garcia]: many
1034
::[Robb]: are things
1035
::[Tina m Garcia]: things
1036
::[Robb]: I kind
1037
::[Tina m Garcia]: on
1038
::[Robb]: of fall
1039
::[Tina m Garcia]: our journey
1040
::[Robb]: back on.
1041
::[Tina m Garcia]: every single
1042
::[Robb]: These little
1043
::[Tina m Garcia]: day.
1044
::[Robb]: things
1045
::[Tina m Garcia]: It's,
1046
::[Robb]: that when
1047
::[Tina m Garcia]: it's worth
1048
::[Robb]: life
1049
::[Tina m Garcia]: it. It
1050
::[Robb]: is
1051
::[Tina m Garcia]: becomes
1052
::[Robb]: kind of kicking
1053
::[Tina m Garcia]: worth
1054
::[Robb]: you in the
1055
::[Tina m Garcia]: it.
1056
::[Robb]: nuts,
1057
::[Tina m Garcia]: Even if at the time it
1058
::[Robb]: because
1059
::[Tina m Garcia]: does,
1060
::[Robb]: it
1061
::[Tina m Garcia]: the
1062
::[Robb]: does.
1063
::[Tina m Garcia]: struggle is so
1064
::[Robb]: Life
1065
::[Tina m Garcia]: real,
1066
::[Robb]: kicks
1067
::[Tina m Garcia]: you
1068
::[Robb]: you
1069
::[Tina m Garcia]: just
1070
::[Robb]: in the
1071
::[Tina m Garcia]: don't
1072
::[Robb]: nuts
1073
::[Tina m Garcia]: want
1074
::[Robb]: all
1075
::[Tina m Garcia]: to
1076
::[Robb]: the
1077
::[Tina m Garcia]: go
1078
::[Robb]: time.
1079
::[Tina m Garcia]: on, just go
1080
::[Robb]: You
1081
::[Tina m Garcia]: on because
1082
::[Robb]: have
1083
::[Tina m Garcia]: it's still
1084
::[Robb]: to
1085
::[Tina m Garcia]: worth it. It gets
1086
::[Robb]: find
1087
::[Tina m Garcia]: better.
1088
::[Robb]: those special
1089
::[Tina m Garcia]: It doesn't always
1090
::[Robb]: moments
1091
::[Tina m Garcia]: stay the same. You
1092
::[Robb]: and go, okay.
1093
::[Tina m Garcia]: know, that's the cool
1094
::[Robb]: It's,
1095
::[Tina m Garcia]: thing about life.
1096
::[Robb]: this is well worth living and breathing
every day. Off to the next one.
1097
::[Tina m Garcia]: We create our own hell, so
it's up to us as to how bad we want to do this.
1098
::[Robb]: Yeah.
1099
::[Robb]: Yeah, it goes on. And I think that it's
up to you sometimes to change your trajectory,
1100
::[Robb]: whether it's... Yeah, that's correct,
I agree. We create our own hell sometimes,
1101
::[Robb]: but we can also find our way to heaven.
You know what I mean? I've had some bad weeks,
1102
::[Robb]: bad weeks, where you're just like, it
just feels like every single person's putting
1103
::[Tina m Garcia]: You know,
1104
::[Robb]: a weight on you.
1105
::[Tina m Garcia]: we didn't really
1106
::[Robb]: And then
1107
::[Tina m Garcia]: talk
1108
::[Robb]: you get
1109
::[Tina m Garcia]: about
1110
::[Robb]: to us,
1111
::[Tina m Garcia]: anything
1112
::[Robb]: sometimes you get to the Saturday
1113
::[Tina m Garcia]: of importance.
1114
::[Robb]: and
1115
::[Tina m Garcia]: We just shot
1116
::[Robb]: it just
1117
::[Tina m Garcia]: the
1118
::[Robb]: falls
1119
::[Tina m Garcia]: shit and
1120
::[Robb]: off.
1121
::[Tina m Garcia]: had pizza
1122
::[Robb]: You're
1123
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
1124
::[Robb]: like,
1125
::[Tina m Garcia]: pasta.
1126
::[Robb]: oh shit. All right, it's time to do
something else.
1127
::[Tina m Garcia]: A little bit, yeah.
1128
::[Robb]: It's time to go get Chi Chi's pizza.
That's what changes your weekend sometimes.
1129
::[Robb]: Sometimes you just need to go and sit
in front of a plate of pasta and talk with
1130
::[Robb]: your friend about life. And those are
important things. They just are.
1131
::[Robb]: Sure, yeah. No, but we talked about
the show, and yeah, but those are things, you
1132
::[Robb]: know. Actually, we did talk about some
important things. We talked about last week's
1133
::[Robb]: show, and the people that it was about,
and sometimes that's what you gotta get off
1134
::[Robb]: your, because some things weigh you
down. Some things you have to get out, and
1135
::[Robb]: thankfully, like we talked about this,
like sometimes this is therapy. And if I'm
1136
::[Robb]: helping somebody else out there in podcast
land that hears me or you say something about
1137
::[Robb]: what we're going through, and it sparks
them to make moments, we've done our job.
1138
::[Robb]: I mean, I hope that I inspire some people
and I hope people listen to this and go, holy
1139
::[Robb]: shit, like that's me. And maybe I need
a change. So
1140
::[Tina m Garcia]: There's that, right?
1141
::[Robb]: it's, it's cool. I'm, I'm
1142
::[Tina m Garcia]: So the ones that don't want to, fuck them.
1143
::[Robb]: glad that we can make moments
1144
::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm like...
1145
::[Robb]: for other people.
1146
::[Tina m Garcia]: ..
1147
::[Robb]: The people who listen to this, I, I
appreciate it more than you probably think.
1148
::[Robb]: Um, and it's, and it's cool that we
get to vent to the world because sometimes
1149
::[Robb]: people don't want to listen and uh obviously
people are all over the world so it's kind
1150
::[Robb]: of that there's something to be proud
of yeah yeah and if and if you listen
1151
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm.
1152
::[Robb]: to the show and you don't like it uh
at least share it with somebody because maybe
1153
::[Robb]: they will oh and and and just for for
shits and giggles whatever you listen to this
1154
::[Robb]: on a podcast platform, Apple or Spotify
or Amazon or Google, mostly those four. Give
1155
::[Robb]: us a review, because from what I understand,
it helps us get out to other people. I learned
1156
::[Robb]: that through a different podcast.
1157
::[Tina m Garcia]: Nice.
1158
::[Robb]: So
1159
::[Tina m Garcia]: And on that,
1160
::[Robb]: reviews
1161
::[Tina m Garcia]: we should
1162
::[Robb]: actually
1163
::[Tina m Garcia]: wrap it
1164
::[Robb]: do
1165
::[Tina m Garcia]: up
1166
::[Robb]: mean
1167
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
1168
::[Robb]: something. So
1169
::[Tina m Garcia]: go
1170
::[Robb]: if you
1171
::[Tina m Garcia]: out
1172
::[Robb]: can...
1173
::[Tina m Garcia]: and have our own moments.
1174
::[Robb]: go to, and I will say Apple, because
a lot of you people listen to us on Apple and
1175
::[Robb]: Spotify. If you can go and just leave
a review for shits and giggles, even if you
1176
::[Robb]: don't like the show, feel free. Like
leave a review, because
1177
::[Tina m Garcia]: I getcha.
1178
::[Robb]: it'll help us get more people to listen
through the algorithm. Yeah, anything else
1179
::[Robb]: you wanna say there? Look at that, we
should wrap. That's correct, I'm about to have
1180
::[Robb]: a moment here shortly. So yeah,
1181
::[Tina m Garcia]: See
1182
::[Robb]: I need
1183
::[Tina m Garcia]: you
1184
::[Robb]: to
1185
::[Tina m Garcia]: later.
1186
::[Robb]: do the adult moments, like laundry and
shopping and other stuff. All right, darlin',
1187
::[Robb]: it's been fun, as always. And you know,
this is an opinion show, so don't get it twisted.
1188
::[Robb]: Keep coming back every Wednesday. It's
our pleasure, and we hope you're having a good
1189
::[Robb]: time as well. See you now. We'll see
you in a week. Bye!
