Episode 95
EP #95-Shower thoughts... what's yours?
Welcome back to Dont get this Twisted
In this episode, Robb and Tina discuss the concept of shower thoughts and the importance of shower time. They reflect on their experiences during Mother's Day and how it feels to navigate life without their mothers. They also explore the idea of using shower time as a space for reflection, relaxation, and motivation. The hosts share personal stories and memories associated with certain smells and music that evoke strong emotions. Overall, they emphasize the significance of taking time for oneself and finding solace in the shower.
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Transcript
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::[Robb]: And welcome to another show of Don't
Get This Twisted. I am Rob, along with my cohost
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::[Robb]: as always, Tina. How you doing, Tina?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm doing really well. I'm
nursing a hangover, but I got this. Like we're
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::[Tina m Garcia]: good.
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::[Robb]: Very good. Very good.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: From
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::[Robb]: Nothing
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::[Tina m Garcia]: two days
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::[Robb]: wrong with that.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: ago. Ha ha ha.
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::[Robb]: It's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Ha
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::[Robb]: alright.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: ha
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::[Robb]: Well
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::[Tina m Garcia]: ha.
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::[Robb]: mother, you know, you know, obviously
Both me and you didn't have to do anything
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::[Robb]: yesterday for Mother's Day
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::[Tina m Garcia]: No. As a matter of fact, I
didn't do shit but basket weave with my
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: cousins. We went
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::[Robb]: it
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and got
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::[Robb]: is.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: burgers and then we sat around
the table and did some baskets.
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::[Robb]: It was a rough one for me yesterday.
I think I had my first like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You're doing the
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::[Robb]: oh
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::[Tina m Garcia]: first
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::[Robb]: yeah. Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: of everything, yeah.
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::[Robb]: And then my mom's birthday's on the
24th, so I get the double whammy in one month,
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::[Robb]: but.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So what are you going through?
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::[Robb]: I mean just you know just that thought
of like oh, yeah, like I don't I don't have
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::[Robb]: mom around anymore And didn't have to
call her and and then the other weird thing
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::[Robb]: is like I've bought flowers for a friend
of mine, so
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: I get all these Emails, but this one
was all mothers driven, so I was like oh, yeah,
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::[Robb]: yeah Great gotta love that, but
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: I'm alright. It was just I think it
was more just a little more reality hit like
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::[Robb]: oh You know kind of a I think it was
more that than anything. I wasn't like down
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::[Robb]: or depressed, because I think I've already
gone through that major thing. It was more
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::[Robb]: just like, oh yeah, like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a hole in your life.
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::[Robb]: yeah, like this sucks. But it was cool,
because I think I looked back on all the things
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::[Robb]: I read online, like people that were
just celebrating still, and that's good, like
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::[Robb]: you still have your mom, awesome. Like
my friend down the street, I said, hey, make
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::[Robb]: sure when you see your mom you give
her a hug,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yes.
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::[Robb]: because she doesn't have her father.
So, and I still have dad. So, you know, it's
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::[Robb]: those things where you're just gonna
have to, you're just gonna looking back on,
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::[Robb]: oh yeah. But
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::[Tina m Garcia]: You have
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::[Robb]: it
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a
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::[Robb]: was,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: different perspective, for
sure.
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::[Robb]: yeah. Well, and one that I didn't have
for a long time because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Right, right.
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::[Robb]: a lot of friends around me had already
lost their parents. So,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah,
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::[Robb]: just one of those things.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: but you're not supposed to
know until you know, you know what
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::[Robb]: Thank goodness.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I mean? You're it's not I have
a friend. She always feels bad. She's like,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I wish I knew what you guys
were going through. And I always say, don't
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::[Robb]: No, no you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you
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::[Robb]: don't.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: don't want to wish that like
you don't want to have those thoughts. You
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::[Tina m Garcia]: don't want to go through that.
You you'll go through it when you have to.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And we'll
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::[Robb]: Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: be there to support you because
we will all already have done it. But
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::[Robb]: Yeah, for sure.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you got to be you. You got
to be grateful with what is
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::[Robb]: It's like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: because.
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::[Robb]: divorce.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: Like when people go,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: well you know, I wish I kinda knew what
you were going through. No you don't, that
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::[Robb]: shit is awful. Like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It is,
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::[Robb]: you
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::[Tina m Garcia]: yeah.
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::[Robb]: don't wanna go through that shit. It's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It is, but
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::[Robb]: not
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::[Tina m Garcia]: then
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::[Robb]: good.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: yesterday I didn't make a phone
call. I didn't do anything for anyone else.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I sat around and did what I
wanted, you know, so in that respect I was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: let off the hook. So,
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::[Robb]: Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: but my mom's also been gone,
I think it's gonna be like 13 years now.
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::[Robb]: Yeah. So
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So...
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::[Robb]: it's funny because we're going to talk
about, we're going to talk about shower thoughts
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::[Robb]: and like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: crazy things that we, that I think all
of us do in the shower, but before, make sure
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::[Robb]: you check out our socials, all that
kind of stuff and subscribe to the show on
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::[Robb]: all the major platforms. We're going
to, we're going to cut it off easy today. But
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::[Robb]: like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hahaha
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::[Robb]: shower thoughts that are kind of funny,
but we're talking about like dealing with things.
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::[Robb]: And my friend down the street over here,
I use an analogy using Shawshank Redemption
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::[Robb]: as
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Okay.
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::[Robb]: an analogy when he kind of has to crawl
through the pipe and she has never seen it.
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::[Robb]: And I was
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm
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::[Robb]: like, you haven't seen, how have you
not seen Shawshank Redemption? So hopefully
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::[Robb]: if she listens to the show this coming
week. sit down and watch Shawshank Redemption.
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::[Robb]: You'll get the analogy of going through
the pipe and how that's kind of a metaphor
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::[Robb]: for life, I think. Sometimes we gotta
crawl through a bunch of shit to get it clean
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::[Robb]: on the other end.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: So,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, but I think it's your
perception of what shit is that
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::[Robb]: no,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: makes it easier hard for sure.
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::[Robb]: exactly, or yeah, or sometimes it just
is shit, and not, you know, not for real shit,
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::[Robb]: but something that's just super hard
that you have to deal with, and we all gotta
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::[Robb]: deal with it, whether it's, you know,
death of a family member, or divorce, or a
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::[Robb]: major breakup, whatever it is. We all
go through these things that... are shitty.
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::[Robb]: So, you know, it
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: happens.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: It does.
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::[Robb]: It could be something simple, like a
car accident where no one gets hurt or nothing
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::[Robb]: happens, but it's still shitty to have
to go through the insurance process, getting
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::[Robb]: your car fixed or whatever. So, it's
relative, I think. Your shitty life is relative
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::[Robb]: to whatever you think shitty is.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's
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::[Robb]: So,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: true. It's all perception.
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::[Robb]: yeah, for sure. So, shower thoughts.
Um, it's kind of funny because I use that term
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::[Robb]: quite often because I think that we
all go through these little Crazy benders of
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::[Robb]: like you're in the shower and either
Something you hear on the way in Something
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::[Robb]: you read a meme or whatever put your
phone down jumping a shower because I can't
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::[Robb]: see because I wear glasses so Regardless
once I take my glasses off I'm totally screwed
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: even if my Even if my phone gets a text
message, I gotta jump out, put my glasses on.
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::[Robb]: So my shower thoughts are kinda funny
because I told you I had a shower thought because
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::[Robb]: I write poetry. So I had a shower thought
one morning. Kinda had this idea of what I
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::[Robb]: wanted to write. So I kept kinda telling
myself in the corner, like, okay, do this,
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::[Robb]: do that. I wanna write this. and I'm
like trying to wash myself off and get out
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::[Robb]: of the shower, right? So I jump out,
I throw a towel around me, and I write this
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::[Robb]: poem. And it's quite long. It's probably
15 or 16 lines long. Like it's a paragraph.
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::[Robb]: But I did it all and I finished it and
then went back to doing my routine. I ended
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::[Robb]: up sending that to somebody that same
morning. just as a hey, and it was a guy at
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::[Robb]: my work, Tom. And I sent it to this
guy, and he was like, dude, that's really cool,
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::[Robb]: man, where'd you get that from? And
I was like, oh, I wrote it this morning. And
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::[Robb]: he was like, yeah, like, where'd you
get it? And I go, no, dude, I really wrote
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::[Robb]: it this morning. So when I went in to
work, I pulled it up on my notes, my Apple
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::[Robb]: notes, and I was like, see, I wrote
it. And he was like, holy shit, like, you really
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::[Robb]: did. I was like, oh yeah. So I think
we all have those shower thoughts, whether
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::[Robb]: they're good or bad, or. And I mean
shower thoughts where it can be literally anything.
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::[Robb]: Sometimes you just need to go in the
shower and I hate to say scream, but even though
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::[Robb]: you're not screaming, you're screaming.
Like sometimes
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm. I did
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::[Robb]: it's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a lot of crying in the shower
the last couple years of my marriage. A lot.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I said that I was like I don't
have thoughts like that in the shower. Oh yes
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I do.
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: A lot of them but I guess I
just kind of put them out of my mind.
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::[Robb]: I've been a little crying in the shower,
up and down throughout the last couple of years
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::[Robb]: as well, where you're just, whatever
it is. Like I said, sometimes it can just be
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::[Robb]: a stressful thing, like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: something that's just so, it beats you
up in the morning, and sometimes you just gotta.
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::[Robb]: And
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::[Robb]: I'm very female-like when it comes to
showering. I like to shower in the blistering
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::[Robb]: lake where it just blisters your skin
up while you're in the shower. At least a lot
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::[Robb]: of the females I know, they take the
hottest showers. And sometimes I'll just sit
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::[Robb]: in there and just be like, okay, or
whatever it is I'm trying to get going for
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::[Robb]: the day.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: Like to me sometimes it's just a motivational
place.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: Like I have to sit in there and go,
okay bro, like we're gonna be all right today.
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::[Robb]: Like I know yesterday was complete dog
shit. Let's just gear up, get going. When you
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::[Robb]: get out of here, everything's gonna
be okay. Cause I have two different shifts.
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::[Robb]: So for me, I either work seven to four
or eight to five. But I get up early in the
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::[Robb]: morning regardless. So I get up at like
four or something in the morning every day.
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::[Robb]: So when I worked the seven o'clock shift,
my shower thoughts are pretty quick because
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::[Robb]: I gotta
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehe
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::[Robb]: bust ass and get going. Like I can't
sit around. But on
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Right.
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::[Robb]: the eight to five days, like I got time
to just, I hate to say waste, but I do. Like
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::[Robb]: I'm ready to go by 5.30 and I don't
have to leave my house till seven. So I'll
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Nice.
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::[Robb]: go out, I'll sit around, I grab my phone
if I need to write something down or if I need
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::[Robb]: to kind of. do something while I'm home.
And then I have like a good, I don't know,
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::[Robb]: 30, 40 minutes where I sometimes even
longer. Sometimes I watch my, my show, whenever
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::[Robb]: my show of of the moment is I'll sit
down and watch it. Like I'm watching, I've
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::[Robb]: been watching Ted Lasso and it's about
45 minutes to an hour show. It all is relative.
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::[Robb]: So I'll watch that in the morning. And
I like that cause it's kind of gives me that
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::[Robb]: I, get up, do all my shit and then,
ooh. Or whatever I'm doing in the shower, like
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::[Robb]: my shower thought can get me going in
the day. So I think for me, like I do a lot
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::[Robb]: of thinking in the shower because it's
that one place of solace where I guess you're
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::[Robb]: just kind of alone with your own mind
for a second or two, even though you are doing
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::[Robb]: stuff. Mostly if you have a lot of hair.
Like when I had really long hair, man, like
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::[Robb]: showers took a while to get in. And
I had horribly curly hair, so to condition
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::[Robb]: my hair took a little bit. Now that
I have short ass hair, it's like if I really
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::[Robb]: hurry, I can get in and out of the shower,
and I'm not joking, in under 10 minutes.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: Jump in, wash my hair, wash my bits,
and jump out. But most of my mornings, I say
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::[Robb]: I probably take about a 15 minute shower,
maybe a little longer, but I do have, I have
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::[Robb]: a lot of shower thoughts. So, it's a
good place for me mostly.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Nice.
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::[Robb]: But there are things where if I'm going
through something or something is on my mind,
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::[Robb]: those are the ones that kind of haunt
me in the shower.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: But
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: they haunt me anyway.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Heh heh heh.
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::[Robb]: Years ago, I had very, very bad issues
sleeping. And I mean, like horribly bad. If
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::[Robb]: I woke up, I would dream about things
and then they would wake me up at like three
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::[Robb]: in the morning and I would be up the
rest of the day.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm.
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::[Robb]: I just could not go back to sleep.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Wow.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, it was horrible. But once I moved
where I live now, things kind of settled down.
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::[Robb]: I think maybe my head settled a little
bit and I sleep way better where I'm at now.
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::[Robb]: And not that where I lived before was
the problem, it was my head that was the problem.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I get that.
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::[Robb]: But the shower thoughts are very similar
to that, where it... If something's on my mind,
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::[Robb]: I really take it in places where I'm
alone.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, no, that's what I do.
I think a lot of people do that. It's better
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::[Tina m Garcia]: to go through it alone and
where else are you ever alone? Because I can't
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::[Tina m Garcia]: go anywhere without somebody
being around, looking around, calling
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::[Robb]: Right.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: around. But if I'm in the shower,
that's like my time. And I kinda like that.
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: But
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::[Robb]: it's a s-
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::[Tina m Garcia]: my biggest thought in the shower
was, damn, this feels good. Like, I have that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: thought,
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::[Robb]: Yeah?
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I have that awe moment every
time I get in the shower.
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: every time.
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::[Robb]: but I think that that is because it's
that one place where you relax
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: For even though, you know, it's not
for a long period of time It's that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: The feeling of the water just
running down your body is so relaxing. It's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: peaceful, but it's energizing
at the same time. I love being clean. There's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: nothing like it. So
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I don't know, that's
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::[Robb]: that
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::[Tina m Garcia]: like
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::[Robb]: is true
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::[Tina m Garcia]: my, that's my ah place.
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Always has been.
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::[Robb]: it's because you can disappear for a
few minutes. And like I said, whatever the
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::[Robb]: thought is, like shower thoughts to
me can also be like people who sing in the
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::[Robb]: shower. Like these
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: are things that are just going through
your mind.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: And it's funny to me what things from
the past will jump into your head. Like
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh yeah.
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::[Robb]: a song that you might not have heard
in 20 years.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: and all of a sudden this little door
in your head goes, eeeeh, hey, remember this
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::[Robb]: cool song you liked? And then you're
like, bum bum
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::[Tina m Garcia]: and
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::[Robb]: bum
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::[Tina m Garcia]: you could
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::[Robb]: bum
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::[Tina m Garcia]: see
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::[Robb]: bum
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::[Tina m Garcia]: her
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::[Robb]: bum
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::[Tina m Garcia]: face.
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::[Robb]: bum bum. Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: The song where you can see
the face.
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::[Robb]: And you're like, and then, and what's
great now, like, you know, we talked about
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::[Robb]: before about how shitty cell phones
were, and
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: yes, they are absolutely horrible most
of the time, but it is nice to be able to get
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::[Robb]: out and find a song in a matter of minutes
that can take you back to
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Absolutely.
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::[Robb]: whatever time period that you were having
your shower thought about. So I find it kind
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::[Robb]: of interesting that Maybe it is that
you're relaxed in the shower that brings up
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::[Robb]: these things.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: or not distracted maybe.
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::[Robb]: That could be as well.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's the only place I'm not
distracted.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, and you're always around people,
like always
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: around people. So
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: I can see why that is kind of your place
of refuge, where you can just kind of be like,
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::[Robb]: okay, for 15 or 20 minutes, just leave
me the hell alone.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. You can't have a damn
dirty thought if you're not by yourself
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::[Robb]: That's a good
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I could
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::[Robb]: well.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: go a long time and I'm like,
wait a minute. Everybody should have dirty
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::[Tina m Garcia]: thoughts I'm a I'm a believer
in those, you know, and I'm like fuck I can't
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::[Tina m Garcia]: even have a damn dirty thought
I can't get away from people
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: so
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::[Robb]: I mean that is a good
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah
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::[Robb]: point. See, I have dirty thoughts all
the time, so it's just a matter of who I'm
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::[Robb]: texting at the time.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmm,
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::[Robb]: Because
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::[Tina m Garcia]: dirty.
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::[Robb]: yeah, I can get in trouble because there's
one that can get me in a lot of trouble, a
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::[Robb]: lot. I text this person one time when
I was at work and they were at a funeral.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. Oh no.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, it was an interesting afternoon,
needless to say. So yeah, you're right, dirty
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::[Robb]: thoughts, I think, shower thoughts and
dirty thoughts. Maybe that's why young men
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::[Robb]: in the morning take such long showers.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Maybe, you're
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::[Robb]: Maybe.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: right. Maybe, yes, sure, maybe.
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::[Robb]: Yeah.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's exactly why they're
in there.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, well
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::[Tina m Garcia]: But
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::[Robb]: mostly
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::[Tina m Garcia]: good for
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::[Robb]: young,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: them that
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::[Robb]: mostly young
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::[Tina m Garcia]: they
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::[Robb]: dudes.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: want to do that.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, well, well, because in the old
days there was no other place to.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: All right?
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::[Robb]: You know what I mean? Like heaven forbid
347
::[Tina m Garcia]: But you couldn't,
348
::[Robb]: you're.
349
::[Tina m Garcia]: you didn't have a private phone
conversation either.
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::[Robb]: That's true. Yeah. I mean, you could,
I mean, my house I did because my dad was,
351
::[Robb]: he wasn't like, he wouldn't pick up
the phone. He'd rarely talk to human beings
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::[Robb]: except
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: for people he was related to. So like
I was always on the phone and I could be by
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::[Robb]: myself, but I think it was more, uh,
you know, the, the, the shower thing was, was
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::[Robb]: more just, it was the one place you
couldn't get walked in on.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
358
::[Robb]: So, and I think You know, and I guess
shower thoughts could be shower sex. I mean,
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::[Robb]: if we're really gonna go down that road,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's
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::[Robb]: it is
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::[Tina m Garcia]: a
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::[Robb]: a
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::[Tina m Garcia]: stretch
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::[Robb]: thought.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: though, don't you think? I
mean, you could think about sex, but that's
367
::[Tina m Garcia]: a whole different story, I
think.
368
::[Robb]: Yeah, I guess so. I'm just stretching
it out a bit.
369
::[Tina m Garcia]: But stretch out whatever you
got to Rob.
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::[Robb]: Yeah, I mean, and man, and in the shower,
and in the shower, it's
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And in
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::[Robb]: not,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: the shower it's okay.
374
::[Robb]: it's, but, well, and if you are with
somebody, boy, you're stretching or moving
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::[Robb]: or putting your leg up here or there,
so that is kinda
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's
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::[Robb]: true.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: true.
379
::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: That's,
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::[Robb]: that's.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: when I'm in the shower, that's
where I think of all the things I have to do
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::[Tina m Garcia]: that day.
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::[Robb]: That's what
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Like
386
::[Robb]: I mean.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: what my schedule is,
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
389
::[Tina m Garcia]: who I need to call, what's
going on with my, you know, certain people
390
::[Tina m Garcia]: in my life if they're having
a tough time, if I need to reach out or, you
391
::[Tina m Garcia]: know, there's a family reunion
that needs to be planned. That's where
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::[Robb]: Oh,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I do all my thoughts.
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::[Robb]: right.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: And that takes up probably
most of the shower. But I do take that awe
396
::[Tina m Garcia]: moment where I'm- just like
he is.
397
::[Robb]: Well, and I think in your space, in
your job, like you have, you could probably
398
::[Robb]: have a day where you have two clients,
and then you can have one where you have 10.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: So like there is a lot to kind of think
about. In my case, like my, even if I'm thinking
401
::[Robb]: of work, it's make sure I'm on time,
because my work is always kind of a roller
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::[Robb]: coaster. It's who
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
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::[Robb]: calls in to get what they want. In your
case, you have these certain things. So like,
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::[Robb]: I can see where shower time might be
that, like you're doing your thing and you're
406
::[Robb]: going, okay, I gotta do this, I gotta
make sure I call this person. And then there's
407
::[Robb]: the rock that gets thrown at you, like,
oh shit, I forgot to do this.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm?
409
::[Robb]: See, I hate that shower thought. I hate
the, oh man, I was supposed to, or.
410
::[Tina m Garcia]: I remember when my grandfather
and my grandmother were alive and they were
411
::[Tina m Garcia]: sick and my mom was also sick
and I was always running from one doctor to
412
::[Tina m Garcia]: the next and trying to keep
this situation separate from that situation
413
::[Tina m Garcia]: because they were, you know,
they were different types of unhealthy and
414
::[Tina m Garcia]: different things going on and
raising a kid and being a softball coach and
415
::[Tina m Garcia]: trying to do my business. Oh,
and I had a husband at the time. Like there
416
::[Tina m Garcia]: was still food to make. mail
to to drop off and dry cleaning to pick up
417
::[Tina m Garcia]: like I remember shower thoughts
when I was at the peak of being married were
418
::[Tina m Garcia]: were so um they were chaotic
it was just like this is what you have to do
419
::[Tina m Garcia]: make a plan let's stick to
it and and trying like you said you make a
420
::[Tina m Garcia]: list or you get out and you
and you write stuff down like I just kept it
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::[Tina m Garcia]: in my head because there was
no freaking way I You know, like this, this
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::[Robb]: Yeah,
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::[Tina m Garcia]: is my time, you know?
424
::[Robb]: this is
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::[Tina m Garcia]: So,
426
::[Robb]: too nice.
427
::[Tina m Garcia]: yeah, this is my safe place.
I'm not leaving here.
428
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
429
::[Tina m Garcia]: But then being a mom, you either
get an animal knocking at the door or you get
430
::[Tina m Garcia]: a kid coming in because they
need lunch money or, you know, whatever it
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::[Tina m Garcia]: is. So,
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::[Robb]: Oh yeah.
433
::[Tina m Garcia]: I don't know. Like for me,
I really appreciate shower time now because
434
::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm only taking care of me.
and I get to just look at what I'm dealing
435
::[Tina m Garcia]: with and what I'm doing, which
I've never really had that in my life, because
436
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was always taking care of
everybody else, but
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::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
438
::[Tina m Garcia]: I've appreciated that time
that I've got to myself. But now my dad's starting
439
::[Tina m Garcia]: to have health issues, and
so I'm gonna be going with him to all of his
440
::[Tina m Garcia]: appointments. So it's like
the cycle continues,
441
::[Robb]: Sure.
442
::[Tina m Garcia]: but I was grateful to get the
break or I could be in the shower just going.
443
::[Tina m Garcia]: Everything's okay, I can relax.
444
::[Robb]: Right.
445
::[Tina m Garcia]: Let the water run down my head
some more, you know?
446
::[Robb]: See, I was a bath person for that,
447
::[Tina m Garcia]: Over you?
448
::[Robb]: but now I don't have a bathtub, so now
it
449
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
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::[Robb]: has to be. But before, oh yeah, it was
more tub thoughts. Like I would run
451
::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm going
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::[Robb]: the
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::[Tina m Garcia]: to
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::[Robb]: hottest
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::[Tina m Garcia]: go to bed.
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::[Robb]: bath I could feasibly get into and just
push and just sit there and literally disappear.
457
::[Robb]: Like put on
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::[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm.
459
::[Robb]: music and just close my eyes and think
of whatever, whatever came to. to my head and
460
::[Robb]: I think that now, obviously where I
don't have a tub, I do the same in the shower
461
::[Robb]: in the morning, but I think I kind of
lose myself in the shower. I don't, I try not
462
::[Robb]: to think of the bad. I think I kind
of like you where it's like, okay, what am
463
::[Robb]: I doing today? Where am I at? You know,
what can be good or what can be better? That's
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::[Robb]: kind of what I'm trying to do now,
465
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
466
::[Robb]: trying to be a little more positive
in the morning.
467
::[Tina m Garcia]: That's good.
468
::[Robb]: Yeah, well, I mean, I think in general,
I think we all need to try to be a little more
469
::[Robb]: positive.
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::[Tina m Garcia]: I'd agree.
471
::[Robb]: Even though the world is what it is,
and whatever that means to you, I think that
472
::[Robb]: there's a lot to that. It's not that
it's on fire, but it's definitely not the greatest.
473
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
474
::[Robb]: But I think...
475
::[Tina m Garcia]: But yet it's not that bad either,
you know? It's
476
::[Robb]: No,
477
::[Tina m Garcia]: like, I'm pretty
478
::[Robb]: exactly.
479
::[Tina m Garcia]: freakin' lucky right now. Yeah.
480
::[Robb]: There's always good and bad.
481
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
482
::[Robb]: My thing is to try to not let the bad
bury you.
483
::[Tina m Garcia]: Right?
484
::[Robb]: And it's hard. It's hard. But
485
::[Tina m Garcia]: It
486
::[Robb]: you know,
487
::[Tina m Garcia]: is.
488
::[Robb]: a nice hot shower will kind of make
that go away.
489
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
490
::[Robb]: And I've been trying to really kind
of, my morning shower, I try to take two showers
491
::[Robb]: now. I try to take. The morning shower
is my quickie, kinda get in, get out, do my
492
::[Robb]: thing, and my night shower is the one
that I try to relax and enjoy a little bit
493
::[Robb]: more, because I think it's, I've been
trying to gear down earlier to where I'm not
494
::[Robb]: trying to do a lot on the phone. If
I watch whatever quote unquote TV show that
495
::[Robb]: I'm watching at the time,
496
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
497
::[Robb]: I,
498
::[Robb]: I try to just settle down and be done
for that last half an hour.
499
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
500
::[Robb]: And it's been better for me because
again, lack of sleep is the death of you. So
501
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
502
::[Robb]: if you can take a hot shower and get
those muscles kind of just relaxed and it's
503
::[Robb]: great. I've been doing way better with
that format in my life.
504
::[Tina m Garcia]: Good.
505
::[Robb]: And it's helped with my release of writing.
So I might come out of the shower a lot more
506
::[Robb]: now with ideas than I probably did before.
507
::[Tina m Garcia]: Okay.
508
::[Robb]: Which is really cool, because like I
said, I'm gonna write another poem book. And
509
::[Robb]: I think it's kind of a roller coaster
one this time. I mean, obviously. A lot of
510
::[Robb]: it's kind of lovey-dovey shit, but that's
just because that's how I am as a writer. But
511
::[Robb]: some of it's personal, and what's kind
of going on in life in general. So those shower
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::[Robb]: thoughts have been really good to me
lately. I have probably, for me it's hard to
513
::[Robb]: say, most of the things that I've written
have been about 200 pages. Give
514
::[Tina m Garcia]: Okay.
515
::[Robb]: or take, I'm probably already about
17 or 18 poems in which is really good because
516
::[Robb]: I haven't really been dedicating myself
to it as much as I thought I was gonna do it.
517
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
518
::[Robb]: I think they just kind of roll with
me. So my shower thoughts have been very good
519
::[Robb]: to me.
520
::[Tina m Garcia]: Good.
521
::[Robb]: Do you think most people have these
kind of 20 minute leisure times in the morning?
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::[Robb]: Do you think
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::[Tina m Garcia]: No.
524
::[Robb]: it's, you don't think it's as common
as we're talking?
525
::[Tina m Garcia]: No, I don't think that that
kind of time is is common at all anymore. Like
526
::[Tina m Garcia]: it's we kind of run our our
schedules to the limit. So I don't know if
527
::[Tina m Garcia]: anybody really like has that
type of time that they could allocate it to
528
::[Tina m Garcia]: just taking a shower just you
know being in the bathroom.
529
::[Robb]: Which is too bad.
530
::[Tina m Garcia]: It totally is. It should be
mandatory.
531
::[Robb]: Yeah, because I think we're losing sight
of some things. And the other thing about shower
532
::[Robb]: thoughts, or shower time, however we
want to put this, I've also learned that, like
533
::[Robb]: aroma is a very important
534
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
535
::[Robb]: part of that. I don't know if you've
ever heard of Dr. Squatch. It's a
536
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-mm.
537
::[Robb]: male soap.
538
::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh yeah, I have, I have.
539
::[Robb]: You'll see the commercials. It's
540
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
541
::[Robb]: handmade. It's not cheap. It's like
$7 a bar. It is the greatest soap ever. It
542
::[Robb]: has like, it's pretty strong aroma.
It like, it has a little gritty in it, so it
543
::[Robb]: exfoliates you. But it's,
544
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm
545
::[Robb]: I found myself to where the more aroma
in that, in your shower time is definitely
546
::[Robb]: a, a great booster. Like it's something
that, and I hate to say punches you in the
547
::[Robb]: face, but it is like that first, that
first breath of aroma and then maybe that hot
548
::[Robb]: steam that hits you. Like to me, it
is kind of eye opening. It reminds me of like
549
::[Robb]: that old Irish spring commercial. Like,
it was like
550
::[Tina m Garcia]: I knew
551
::[Robb]: the
552
::[Tina m Garcia]: you
553
::[Robb]: guy,
554
::[Tina m Garcia]: were going to say that.
555
::[Robb]: the guy would smell the bar in his eyes,
but it would open up really wide.
556
::[Tina m Garcia]: Right?
557
::[Robb]: But I think there is something to that.
that will drive these shower thoughts, because
558
::[Robb]: aroma puts you in a good mood.
559
::[Tina m Garcia]: And that's the quickest way
to a memory is by smelling it. Like
560
::[Robb]: Hmm?
561
::[Tina m Garcia]: it really is. I go into the
grocery store around Halloween and I smell
562
::[Tina m Garcia]: the cinnamon brooms. My mom
always had a cinnamon broom in our house. And
563
::[Tina m Garcia]: so every time I go in, I'm
like, oh, it's mom's time of year, you know?
564
::[Robb]: Yeah.
565
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was having... Mm-hmm.
566
::[Robb]: And that's good. And I think that there
is something to that. I got this stupid, well
567
::[Robb]: stupid, I shouldn't say that. I was
at the supermarket the other day and I needed
568
::[Robb]: to buy shampoo. And I'm pretty generic,
I don't care. As long as it cleans my hair
569
::[Robb]: and conditions a little bit and does
its job. So I'm walking through and I see it
570
::[Robb]: and it says like green apple or some
kind of apple. I was like, whatever, I'll just
571
::[Robb]: grab it. What the hell? I get it home
and I'm like getting the shower this morning.
572
::[Robb]: I'm like, Oh man, that is super awesome.
It really smells like green apples.
573
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
574
::[Robb]: So it was one of those things where
like, that was the first thing this morning
575
::[Robb]: that I got into my, you know, senses
that hit me really hard. It's just, Ooh, yeah.
576
::[Robb]: And, and again, I, I think I walked
out this morning and either, I got a title
577
::[Robb]: for a poem or the first couple of lines.
So my shower thoughts are important to me pretty
578
::[Robb]: much daily.
579
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. You know what's funny
is you talk about smells and showers. When
580
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was a kid growing up, one
of my favorite cousins, Mona, she would be
581
::[Tina m Garcia]: like, I'm gonna take a shower
and then you're gonna take a shower and we're
582
::[Tina m Garcia]: gonna get ready to go. You
know, that's what she always set it up like
583
::[Tina m Garcia]: that. And the smell when she
got out of the shower, I don't know what she
584
::[Tina m Garcia]: used on her body or on her
hair or whatever, but that smell to this day
585
::[Tina m Garcia]: stays in my head. And like
if I go to If I go to where she's living and
586
::[Tina m Garcia]: I go there, I'm like, oh my
God, she still smells like her. You know,
587
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
588
::[Tina m Garcia]: it's a, I don't know why I
thought of that, but it's a smell that's kind
589
::[Tina m Garcia]: of stuck. And when I, every
time I smell it, I think of her and she was
590
::[Tina m Garcia]: just like the coolest cousin
when we were growing up. So I don't know, whenever
591
::[Tina m Garcia]: I catch that smell, I think
of her, but it's a shower smell of all
592
::[Robb]: Sure.
593
::[Tina m Garcia]: things. I don't know.
594
::[Robb]: I think for
595
::[Tina m Garcia]: She had
596
::[Robb]: me is.
597
::[Tina m Garcia]: really long hair and it always
smelled really good. It just, it must've been
598
::[Tina m Garcia]: her,
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::[Robb]: For me, it's the, if we're gonna go down
600
::[Tina m Garcia]: her shampoo.
601
::[Robb]: to like that shower smell or that thing
that really kind of rocks you, was Johnson & Johnson's baby shampoo.
602
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
603
::[Robb]: And like, because I think I remember,
obviously you remember it as a child, but I think the first time you have a baby
604
::[Robb]: or you have a child and you're in the tub
or you're in the shower and you use Johnson & Johnson,
605
::[Robb]: it's like, holy crap. All these things
come like flooding back to your head.
606
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
607
::[Robb]: It's like a shower thought overload
where you're just like, oh yeah, like it totally
608
::[Robb]: brought me back to, I used to live in
Selmar growing up. And it's funny, I don't
609
::[Robb]: have a lot of memories before eight
years old.
610
::[Tina m Garcia]: Hmm.
611
::[Robb]: It's the weirdest thing. And my parents
got divorced at eight, so maybe it's a coping
612
::[Robb]: mechanism.
613
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
614
::[Robb]: but I really don't have many thoughts
before that. But things like that bring me
615
::[Robb]: back to like being in this house and
616
::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh yeah.
617
::[Robb]: getting wrapped up in a towel by my
mom,
618
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm.
619
::[Robb]: getting out of the tub or getting out
of the, like getting out of one of my first
620
::[Robb]: showers where like, you know, my parents
were on the outside of the shower, like everything
621
::[Robb]: okay in there? Everything okay in there?
Cause I was like little, you know, or,
622
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
623
::[Robb]: but I remember, you know, obviously,
your first couple of years of showering alone were Johnson & Johnson because you didn't want to get
624
::[Robb]: no shit in your eyeballs and burn them out. So I think those are the things that are my things of
or my big shower thoughts. Mostly when I first started bathing my kid where it was like a punch
625
::[Robb]: in the face of like memories. And then I remember getting in afterwards like to shower myself and
626
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm. Oh, yeah
627
::[Robb]: the resonance of that baby shampoo would
628
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
629
::[Robb]: would come back up right back into the
shower again and you know, shower thoughts
630
::[Robb]: again.
631
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah. Or what about when you
have the music going? Because I always get
632
::[Tina m Garcia]: ready with the music blaring.
I need
633
::[Robb]: Right?
634
::[Tina m Garcia]: that to get pumped up for my
day.
635
::[Robb]: That's my boy.
636
::[Tina m Garcia]: And you hear a song and it
reminds you of somebody. And so then they're
637
::[Tina m Garcia]: on your mind and you remember
like stupid things you did or something
638
::[Robb]: Ah.
639
::[Tina m Garcia]: they said or
640
::[Robb]: Mmm.
641
::[Tina m Garcia]: you know, just I don't know.
There's so many times I've done that where
642
::[Tina m Garcia]: the song will remind me of
somebody and then the shower is thinking or
643
::[Tina m Garcia]: reliving like pieces of my
life that went on with that particular person.
644
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm. That happens
645
::[Tina m Garcia]: For
646
::[Robb]: to me
647
::[Tina m Garcia]: sure. A lot,
648
::[Robb]: all the time,
649
::[Tina m Garcia]: right? That's
650
::[Robb]: all
651
::[Tina m Garcia]: why
652
::[Robb]: the
653
::[Tina m Garcia]: I
654
::[Robb]: time.
655
::[Tina m Garcia]: said, can you see her face?
Because when I, my next door neighbor friend,
656
::[Tina m Garcia]: when we went to Target one
day, I was, we go through every aisle because
657
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was just trying to get her
out of the house. She was losing her mind.
658
::[Tina m Garcia]: And we're going down every
aisle. Well, we went down the fragrance aisle
659
::[Tina m Garcia]: and I'm going to date myself,
but back in the day, it used to be Jacquard
660
::[Tina m Garcia]: Noir that all the guys wore,
right? It was like the cool thing to wear.
661
::[Robb]: Hey, just
662
::[Tina m Garcia]: And
663
::[Robb]: so
664
::[Tina m Garcia]: we
665
::[Robb]: you
666
::[Tina m Garcia]: were.
667
::[Robb]: know, I have Drakkar in there because
a friend of mine down the street, that's her
668
::[Robb]: favorite thing and she got me some.
And now I wear it all the time.
669
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yep.
670
::[Robb]: To this day.
671
::[Tina m Garcia]: Well, I got to tell you when
I always say, when I smell it, it makes my
672
::[Tina m Garcia]: knees weak because it does
take me back to two people in particular that
673
::[Tina m Garcia]: always were that, that I was
so in love with back in the day. And, um, so
674
::[Tina m Garcia]: I sprayed it. I was like, Ooh,
so I sprayed it and, and my friend walked through
675
::[Tina m Garcia]: it and she goes, Oh Tina, Oh
my God. I'm like, do you
676
::[Robb]: I'm going
677
::[Tina m Garcia]: see
678
::[Robb]: to go
679
::[Tina m Garcia]: his
680
::[Robb]: to
681
::[Tina m Garcia]: face?
682
::[Robb]: bed.
683
::[Tina m Garcia]: And she's like, I do. I do
see his face. And we were laughing and joking
684
::[Tina m Garcia]: around. Then we look over and
there's two guys that are in the aisle with
685
::[Tina m Garcia]: us just laughing at everything
we're saying. And I embarrassed her completely.
686
::[Tina m Garcia]: But it was crazy how that smell
took us back to that time with that music.
687
::[Tina m Garcia]: And we could go, I could remember
what I was wearing. I could remember like what
688
::[Tina m Garcia]: I said. I could remember how
it went. It's amazing from one squirt of one,
689
::[Tina m Garcia]: like cologne.
690
::[Robb]: Yeah, well, and like you said, music,
I think music's my downfall.
691
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
692
::[Robb]: So if I'm in the shower and listening
to music, and I don't do it very often, because
693
::[Robb]: of course I shower at the Ascrakadon,
694
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
695
::[Robb]: so it would have to be a weekend. But
yeah, music to me is the killer, because yeah,
696
::[Robb]: and I do remember, I remember a certain
thing that happened, mostly like, I was with
697
::[Robb]: somebody in the shower and it was the
first time that I remember them like not having
698
::[Robb]: makeup on or
699
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
700
::[Robb]: you know, because we were getting ready
to go somewhere. And it was one of those things
701
::[Robb]: where she was kind of like real timid
and I was like, no, that's okay. Like being,
702
::[Robb]: be you like hair wet and like just the,
the first time that you realize that like Sure,
703
::[Robb]: they're super pretty anyway, but then
you see them who they really are and they're
704
::[Robb]: prettier. You
705
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
706
::[Robb]: know what I mean? Because we all love
women with makeup because makeup is, it's that
707
::[Robb]: one thing, but to see someone raw and
then, I think you fall for that, that person,
708
::[Robb]: and then the beauty is just the positive.
Because the cake is great. You put
709
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
710
::[Robb]: a little frosting on it, sure it's better,
I like cake anyway. So,
711
::[Tina m Garcia]: Right? I get
712
::[Robb]: so it's
713
::[Tina m Garcia]: it.
714
::[Robb]: one of those things where you're right.
Like, and I'm a, I'm a song person. I listen
715
::[Robb]: to music a lot. So
716
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
717
::[Robb]: yeah, I can be, I can be taken back
to certain instances. And yeah, it was weird.
718
::[Robb]: Like I was driving the other day in
a part of town that I hadn't been in quite
719
::[Robb]: a while and I drove past a place that
I had dinner with someone and hung out, and
720
::[Robb]: then a hotel that we stayed at that
I hadn't really driven by in years, and I mean
721
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
722
::[Robb]: years, and it was like a punch in the
dick. I was just like, oh yeah, oh yeah, oh
723
::[Robb]: yeah. Like, it was really bizarre. So
I can see how that music in the shower can
724
::[Robb]: spark such a memory
725
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
726
::[Robb]: that It's like a flood. And mostly if
it's about that one person that just was everything
727
::[Robb]: to you at one point in your life.
728
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
729
::[Robb]: It's really easy to be taken to that.
730
::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh, absolutely. Absolutely.
That's also, you know, a lot of my shower thoughts
731
::[Tina m Garcia]: are almost like prayers, like
I think about what's going on with my people,
732
::[Tina m Garcia]: you know, my friends, my family,
my brother, the kids, like, my dad, I think
733
::[Tina m Garcia]: about in the morning, like
there's a there's like a, I don't know, maybe
734
::[Tina m Garcia]: a meditative state or where
I'm praying, it just depends on the day. And
735
::[Tina m Garcia]: I do it in the shower, because
again, that's my time where my brain floats
736
::[Tina m Garcia]: and does what it needs to do
uninterrupted.
737
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
738
::[Tina m Garcia]: And so, you know, I don't get
out of the phone or get out to answer the phone
739
::[Tina m Garcia]: or to do the text messages.
Like that is the only freaking time I have
740
::[Tina m Garcia]: to myself. Like the only time.
So that's also my time to like say my prayers
741
::[Tina m Garcia]: or to like kind of put some
thought out for, you know, certain people that
742
::[Tina m Garcia]: are going through stuff. That's
the time that I take to have all those thoughts
743
::[Tina m Garcia]: too.
744
::[Robb]: I would probably tell you it's a very
common place to talk to God.
745
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, for sure.
746
::[Robb]: for sure
747
::[Tina m Garcia]: For sure.
748
::[Robb]: because it's that one time where you
can whatever
749
::[Tina m Garcia]: uninterrupted.
750
::[Robb]: you're, well, and whatever, like you're
in this relaxed state
751
::[Tina m Garcia]: Well, the
752
::[Robb]: and.
753
::[Tina m Garcia]: water, you're constantly, you
can feel your whole body at the same time because
754
::[Tina m Garcia]: the water is going down your
755
::[Robb]: Mm-hmm.
756
::[Tina m Garcia]: body. So it makes you very
aware of your own self, which starts that whole
757
::[Tina m Garcia]: process for me.
758
::[Robb]: Sure, well and then I think the sound,
759
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm
760
::[Robb]: that very, just, it's a relaxing, like
running water is a very relaxing sound, whether
761
::[Robb]: it's a shower
762
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
763
::[Robb]: or a river or the ocean. So, and I think
that's been embedded in a sense, the dawn of
764
::[Robb]: man, right, because we've
765
::[Tina m Garcia]: right?
766
::[Robb]: lived by water. So, I think a lot of
that where you, doing your thing and you're
767
::[Robb]: listening and doing this and doing that.
And that is probably where it's a very much
768
::[Robb]: more common place to, like you said,
say a prayer or start going, hey, look, you
769
::[Robb]: know, can you help me out a little bit?
Like,
770
::[Tina m Garcia]: Right?
771
::[Robb]: I'm going through this time or my friend
is going through this time. Can you give them
772
::[Robb]: a little... a little, everything's going
to be okay. So
773
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
774
::[Robb]: I can totally understand that. And I
think that again, it's a, it's a place of solace
775
::[Robb]: where you
776
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
777
::[Robb]: are alone and there's, and I hate to
say there's no judgment because it's a shower,
778
::[Robb]: but there isn't, because you're, you're
just doing your thing. And, and I think that
779
::[Robb]: those are important times. And,
780
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
781
::[Robb]: and, and to me, uh, I think they're
a little more Common for people who have time
782
::[Robb]: like if you do have time Like that's
why baths are such a relaxing thing because
783
::[Robb]: I think people if you have the time
to take one That's why people put special shit
784
::[Robb]: in the water and have candles and kind
of go into a meditative state
785
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm,
786
::[Robb]: I
787
::[Tina m Garcia]: drink
788
::[Robb]: find
789
::[Tina m Garcia]: a box of wine.
790
::[Robb]: Drink a box of wine. I mean shit. I
used to know people who who I mean, they had
791
::[Robb]: issues but would drink beers in the
shower in the morning.
792
::[Tina m Garcia]: My brother says that the shower
beer is the most indulgent thing he he just
793
::[Tina m Garcia]: that's like his his favorite
thing is
794
::[Robb]: See, that's wild. I mean,
795
::[Tina m Garcia]: a shower
796
::[Robb]: I've
797
::[Tina m Garcia]: beer.
798
::[Robb]: never.
799
::[Tina m Garcia]: So I did it with marijuana
once I was like well I'm not really a drinker
800
::[Tina m Garcia]: but I'll smoke
801
::[Robb]: Right?
802
::[Tina m Garcia]: a joint and so I got in the
shower and I had my ex bring me a joint and
803
::[Tina m Garcia]: he was talking to me in the
in the bathroom anyway while I was taking the
804
::[Tina m Garcia]: shower. And we smoked a joint
together and I called my brother. I'm like,
805
::[Tina m Garcia]: you're right. Like that
806
::[Robb]: Yeah.
807
::[Tina m Garcia]: was a good, that was a good
place because it totally helped me relax.
808
::[Robb]: Right,
809
::[Tina m Garcia]: It was
810
::[Robb]: and you're
811
::[Tina m Garcia]: amazing.
812
::[Robb]: like hot-boxing yourself.
813
::[Tina m Garcia]: Well, the fan
814
::[Robb]: You know
815
::[Tina m Garcia]: was
816
::[Robb]: what I mean?
817
::[Tina m Garcia]: on, but yeah, kind of.
818
::[Robb]: But I mean,
819
::[Tina m Garcia]: I was like in a
820
::[Robb]: it's,
821
::[Tina m Garcia]: little bubble.
822
::[Robb]: yeah, because that steam is bringing
everything right back up. I'm sure it's, you
823
::[Robb]: know, and I'm sure that's probably the
whole thing with if you had
824
::[Tina m Garcia]: Hehehehe
825
::[Robb]: a cold, an ice-cold beer
826
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
827
::[Robb]: in a super hot shower, it's
828
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
829
::[Robb]: probably that yin and yang of like,
you're enjoying the heat and the water on you,
830
::[Robb]: and then you're sucking one back there
just like to cool your right back down. So
831
::[Robb]: I'm sure there's something to that.
832
::[Tina m Garcia]: I don't know, I'd have to ask
my brother again what he actually said, but
833
::[Tina m Garcia]: he would say sometimes, he
goes, it might be shower bear time.
834
::[Robb]: Yeah, I mean, I know I've sat in a tub,
you know, listening to music with a Coke, like
835
::[Robb]: an ice cold,
836
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
837
::[Robb]: you know. And so I get it, like when
you're just sweating up a storm in the tub
838
::[Robb]: and you're drinking to, you know, just
do your thing. So I can see the relaxing behind
839
::[Robb]: a shower beer. Unfortunately, my friend
was doing it because he had to cope and he
840
::[Robb]: was doing it to... get along with the
day, so. But yeah, I can get that. Those are,
841
::[Robb]: again, just as much a shower thought
than
842
::[Tina m Garcia]: Very much so.
843
::[Robb]: just us getting in. So I would love
to know how many people use that as a form
844
::[Robb]: of therapy. Because I bet you it's a
little more.
845
::[Robb]: use than we think. And again, not like
real therapy, but definitely a therapeutic
846
::[Robb]: process when you're
847
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
848
::[Robb]: in the morning and you're doing your
thing and whatever you need to get out in the
849
::[Robb]: morning, you get out. And I think that
it's an important time for both morning and
850
::[Robb]: evening. Like I said, I'm becoming way
more of an evening shower taker, I love to
851
::[Robb]: get out of the shower, just kind of.
after a shit long day of being, you know, whatever
852
::[Robb]: it is. And then just, it totally relaxes
every muscle in me to hit the sack. So, and
853
::[Robb]: then again,
854
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
855
::[Robb]: if I get a couple of good thoughts out
of it and I get an idea or decide, you know,
856
::[Robb]: sometimes a shower's a good place to
make a decision in life.
857
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
858
::[Robb]: Whether you think... whether you think
it's a good idea or not, sometimes the best
859
::[Robb]: ideas for me have, or problems that
I've solved have been inside the four walls
860
::[Robb]: of a shower. And I know that sounds
crazy, but I've got out of the shower and go,
861
::[Robb]: yeah, I'm not doing this anymore.
862
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm
863
::[Robb]: And it's crazy how many times I've probably
done that in my life. But it's been more than
864
::[Robb]: a handful, and I've
865
::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh,
866
::[Robb]: made
867
::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm sure.
868
::[Robb]: life-changing decisions. life-changing
869
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
870
::[Robb]: to where I was like, yeah, I'm gonna
do this. I'm moving here. I'm going this, I'm
871
::[Robb]: gonna do this. And just like, wow. So
I think it's an important thing. And I think
872
::[Robb]: more people than we think are doing
it. I think I'm gonna ask more after the show
873
::[Robb]: comes out. I'm gonna kinda, I'm gonna
say, hey, listen to this pod and then tell
874
::[Robb]: me your shower story or your shower
thought. I'd like to see if there's more people
875
::[Robb]: like me than I think. Because you're
876
::[Tina m Garcia]: and
877
::[Robb]: probably
878
::[Tina m Garcia]: see how
879
::[Robb]: right,
880
::[Tina m Garcia]: it goes.
881
::[Robb]: it's probably a very small percentage.
But even if it's 10% of the people that are
882
::[Robb]: having these, you know, it's not just
jump in, wash your shit, and get out. So, I
883
::[Robb]: don't know. I think it'll be fun, you
know. on this Wednesday when it comes out and
884
::[Robb]: I'm going to ask a bunch of friends
to go, Hey, I want you to listen to this 45
885
::[Robb]: minutes of show and then tell me what
your shower thought is. Cause I have so many
886
::[Robb]: of them, Tina, I couldn't even, like
I said, I've
887
::[Tina m Garcia]: Oh
888
::[Robb]: made.
889
::[Tina m Garcia]: God, how do you not? When you
said shower thoughts, I'm like, where do I
890
::[Tina m Garcia]: start?
891
::[Robb]: Exactly, because there's so, so many.
Because it's just a place where you can, like
892
::[Robb]: I said, just be you, cry if you have
to, scream if you have to. And sometimes you
893
::[Robb]: gotta do that. If you're home alone,
I've been in a shower where I had to belt it
894
::[Robb]: out to where I was just like, fuck!
And sometimes then you get out and you're like,
895
::[Robb]: woo, all right, let's go get a burger.
896
::[Tina m Garcia]: I wish it was that easy.
897
::[Robb]: Yeah, I mean, I don't think it's ever
that easy. I mean, but
898
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mm-hmm.
899
::[Robb]: sometimes it's easy in the moment where
you're trying not to think about something
900
::[Robb]: again. Because my mind, it is in overdrive
nine times out of 10. And when I can have a
901
::[Robb]: thought that's not in that direction,
it's a good one, so.
902
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
903
::[Robb]: And a matter of fact, you know, I'm
going to be a hopping in there. Not too long
904
::[Robb]: from a
905
::[Tina m Garcia]: Me
906
::[Robb]: this recording.
907
::[Tina m Garcia]: too, as a
908
::[Robb]: So
909
::[Tina m Garcia]: matter of fact, as soon as
I get off this recording, it's going to
910
::[Robb]: yeah,
911
::[Tina m Garcia]: happen.
912
::[Robb]: I think so. I'm going to,
913
::[Tina m Garcia]: And it
914
::[Robb]: I'm
915
::[Tina m Garcia]: looks
916
::[Robb]: going
917
::[Tina m Garcia]: like it's about time.
918
::[Robb]: to. Yeah, that is, Oh, look at you.
That was, that's a segue. That was very well
919
::[Robb]: done.
920
::[Tina m Garcia]: And you're welcome.
921
::[Robb]: And, and, and you're getting way better
at this podcasting thing
922
::[Tina m Garcia]: Am I?
923
::[Robb]: segue. You just did a segue, Tina.
924
::[Tina m Garcia]: I know, what the hell?
925
::[Robb]: It only took 95 episodes to start doing
segues. So,
926
::[Tina m Garcia]: Well, lo and behold, I finally
got it.
927
::[Robb]: that's it. Knock that one out of the,
928
::[Tina m Garcia]: I'm a slow learner, but
929
::[Robb]: that's
930
::[Tina m Garcia]: I got
931
::[Robb]: right.
932
::[Tina m Garcia]: there.
933
::[Robb]: So your shower thought for today should
be how I'm gonna do segues from now on.
934
::[Tina m Garcia]: Mmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm
935
::[Robb]: Well played, well played. All right
guys, make sure to check out our social medias
936
::[Robb]: on the Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.
and check out this show on Apple, Google, Amazon,
937
::[Robb]: iHeartRadio, Spotify, all those cool
places that they have podcasts, we're there.
938
::[Robb]: And follow, subscribe, whatever it is,
share this thing. Get that link and send it
939
::[Robb]: to every single one of your relatives
so they can hear me say the F word
940
::[Tina m Garcia]: A lot
941
::[Robb]: every
942
::[Tina m Garcia]: of
943
::[Robb]: week,
944
::[Tina m Garcia]: times,
945
::[Robb]: a
946
::[Tina m Garcia]: yeah.
947
::[Robb]: lot of time, and pretty much
948
::[Tina m Garcia]: A lot
949
::[Robb]: every
950
::[Tina m Garcia]: of
951
::[Robb]: week.
952
::[Tina m Garcia]: times, yes, it's consistent.
953
::[Robb]: And then you can hear Tina giggle like
that. And... So yeah, any last thoughts?
954
::[Tina m Garcia]: Just thank you for listening.
We're almost
955
::[Robb]: Yeah,
956
::[Tina m Garcia]: at 100 episodes.
957
::[Robb]: but we're almost there. It's gonna
958
::[Tina m Garcia]: We're
959
::[Robb]: be
960
::[Tina m Garcia]: almost
961
::[Robb]: awesome.
962
::[Tina m Garcia]: there. And it's so crazy. We
threw a big party for my brother this weekend,
963
::[Tina m Garcia]: and I didn't realize how many
people that were at the party listen
964
::[Robb]: Hehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehehe
965
::[Tina m Garcia]: to the podcast now. And yeah,
I guess I got some talking to do to a few of
966
::[Tina m Garcia]: them because I haven't seen
them in a while.
967
::[Robb]: They're like, wait a second. Yeah, it's
awesome.
968
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah, there's some talking
that's going to be going on. So
969
::[Robb]: Coo coo. Yep, 100
970
::[Tina m Garcia]: anyway,
971
::[Robb]: is coming,
972
::[Tina m Garcia]: 100's
973
::[Robb]: and it's not a special day
974
::[Tina m Garcia]: coming.
975
::[Robb]: this year, which is
976
::[Tina m Garcia]: Yeah.
977
::[Robb]: gonna be even better. Anyway, this is
an opinion show, so don't get it twisted. Make
978
::[Robb]: sure you check in every Wednesday, because
we're doing shows until the end of time. Tina
979
::[Robb]: just doesn't
980
::[Tina m Garcia]: We'll see
981
::[Robb]: know
982
::[Tina m Garcia]: how that
983
::[Robb]: it yet.
984
::[Tina m Garcia]: goes.
985
::[Robb]: Ha ha ha!
986
::[Tina m Garcia]: Great!
987
::[Robb]: All right, you guys have a great Wednesday,
and we'll see you in a week. Tina, it's always
988
::[Robb]: a pleasure. Talk to you later.
989
::[Tina m Garcia]: It is. All right,
990
::[Robb]: Bye.
991
::[Tina m Garcia]: bye bye.
